How to Approach a School Bully

Almost everyone will encounter a bully at least once in their lifetime. Many will unfortunately have numerous encounters. Bullies are most commonly encountered during school. From kindergarten to high school, bullies roam school hallways, antagonizing children who are different from them. Approaching a bully takes courage. Parents need to talk to their children and develop a plan for dealing with bullies. Violence should never be an option. It is better to use words and not fists to resolve differences.

Instructions

1. Talk to the bully if and when he approaches you. Never resort to violence when in a bullying situation.

2. Walk away if the bully attempts to instigate a fight or a violent encounter. Some children worry that their reputation will be hurt if they do not fight a bully. Ken Druck and Jessica Malia, authors of "The ABC's of School Bullying," say, "Fighting isn't worth it, You do not have to prove yourself by fighting."

3. Reason with your bully. Attempt to find out why he is bullying you. Sometimes, you can work out your differences using words.

4. Discuss the encounters with your parents. Parental advice and support can help ease the stress of bullying on the victim. Do not be afraid to tell your parents.

5. Report the bullying to your school administrators or the school police presence. Druck and Malia advise victims to "discuss with them how you will be protected from retaliation."

Tips & Warnings

• Always consult a parent, adult or school official if you are being bullied.

• If possible, avoid places where the bullying occurs.

• Encounters with bullies can be violent. Be very careful when approaching a bully or when you are encountered by a bully.

References

• The ABC's of School Bullying

Resources

• Kid's Health