How to Choose The Perfect Man for You

Marriage often follows when you can find the perfect man.

Before you can settle down with the perfect man, you need to be able to love and appreciate yourself. By understanding yourself, you build the opportunity to truly love and understand another person. Just as you probably realize that you are not completely perfect, you should remember that finding the perfect man isn't about finding someone who has no flaws. Instead, it is about finding someone who is a perfect match for you.

Instructions

1. Determine the qualities that are most important for you when it comes to your ideal man. Consider factors such as whether or not you want to have children, what values and morals are most important to you and what type of lifestyle you want to live. By determining the qualities you most desire in advance, you will ensure that you keep looking until you find your perfect man.

2. Open yourself to new possibilities. Just because you have a list of things that you know you value in a partner doesn't mean that as you grow and change, your list can't grow and change with you. Introduce yourself to new people, go on dates and be friendly when you meet someone new even if he doesn't seem like your type.

3. Communicate with the men you meet to determine whether or not you have the ability to positively express yourself to one another. You may need to date for a while before making a commitment in order to get enough experience with him to find out how well his communication styles match your own.

4. Ask for the opinions of your closest friends and family members. When you get very close with a man, introduce him to these important people in your life. Ultimately, you know him better than your family and friends most of the time, so you should rely on your opinion. Still, your friends and family know you and can give you important information from a neutral outsider's point of view.

5. Stay true to yourself. The right man for you will never make you change unless the change is something you desire for yourself. Don't allow him to control you or use you. Make sure that you are always maintaining your independence and allowing him to support you in positive ways.

References

• Cosmopolitan; How to Not Marry the Wrong Man; Celeste Perron
• Oprah; Choosing the Right Man -- What Happily Married Women Know; Lise Funderburg; February 2003
• Brigham Young University; The Right Person, the Right Place, the Right Time - Guidelines for Wisely Choosing a Spouse; Thomas Holman