How to Get Your Guy to Commit
Getting a guy to commit doesn't have to be a struggle. While it is common to liken the task to pulling the reins on a bucking bronco, swaying a commitment-phobic man can be simple as being yourself. It is important to remember that solid relationships are not built upon beating each other into submission, but learning to mutually trust, respect and love one another. In the end, commitment should be natural and equally desired by both partners.
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Be his friend. As the saying goes, couples who play together stay together. Try to find activities that you both enjoy and take part in those activities as much as possible. If he is interested in something that you're not, try tagging along with him to show your support, as long as he doesn't mind.
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Be supportive. According to the relationship book "His Needs Her Needs," men need their partners to be proud of them. Try to encourage him in his everyday activities, including his work and his hobbies. Understand what he does for a living and what his goals are and let him know that you're supportive. Words of encouragement can go a long way and can help to make or break a relationship.
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Accept him for who he is. Partners often feel as though they need to change one another into the ideal mate. However, it is important to remember that change can only be made by a willing individual. While it is important to curb unhealthy habits that may be detrimental to the relationship, try to look past the little annoyances and see the person underneath. No amount of complaining will aid the situation.
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Be yourself. Never pretend to be something you're not. This is especially important in new relationships, when the foundation is being built. If you dislike his taste in music, food or lifestyle choices, make it clear right from the start. Your honesty can help to build a solid, trusting relationship and also shows him your respect. This also helps to dissipate fears of uncertainty; he knows exactly who you are and what he is getting himself into.
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Give him freedom. Couples who care for one another do not have to spend the entirety of their time together. One of the key reasons many guys fear commitment is the prospect of the losing their freedom. Accept that he sometimes wants to spend time alone or with his friends. Exploring individual interests is important for both partners in a relationship.
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Tips & Warnings
It is important to discuss the future early on in the relationship, so commitment issues are less likely to occur.
If he is showing no signs of wanting to commit, do not be afraid to walk away from the relationship.
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