How to Get Over Jealousy After an Emotional Affair
Although feeling jealous after an emotional affair is normal and common, it can be difficult to move on, both personally and in your relationship. After your partner has admitted to the emotional affair, attempt to look at the situation rationally and figure out what steps you must take to repair the damage caused by the emotional infidelity. Since both emotional and physical affairs are usually the symptom of a greater problem in the relationship, take the time to evaluate what led up to your partner's emotional infidelity and assess whether the relationship is salvageable.
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Discuss the situation with your partner. Talk to your partner about what led up to the emotional affair and what each of you needs from the relationship in order to feel fulfilled. Acknowledge that you are feeling jealous and let your partner know what you need to feel secure in the relationship.
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Seek the assistance of a couple's counselor. Having a third-party mediate your discussion can help you avoid arguments and keep the focus on repairing your relationship and rebuilding your confidence.
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Assess whether you and your partner can fix the relationship. Partners may involve themselves in affairs because they are not feeling emotionally fulfilled. If you discover that you and your partner are not able to meet each other's psychological needs, consider moving on so that you can both focus on taking care of your emotional well-being.
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Nurture your self-esteem. Because jealousy frequently stems from worries about personal inadequacy, take part in activities that make you feel good about yourself as a person and a partner.
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Practice forgiveness. Although it will be difficult to let go of your feelings of anger, inadequacy and helplessness, attempt to let go of the affair and focus your energy on strengthening your relationship and self-esteem.
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