How to Talk to Random Girls
Approaching a random girl and talking to her can seem like a daunting task, especially if you are shy or have not met anyone new in a while. Yet there are good reasons why you should try. That random girl could end up becoming a great friend, a future girlfriend or more. Follow these tips to successfully talk to her.
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Pick an appropriate time and place; girls will be more receptive to talking to you if you approach them when they feel comfortable and safe. Avoid dark, solitary places at night, when you can be perceived of as a potential attacker, and choose instead a public setting with plenty of light. Schools, stores and laundromats are good examples of these kinds of places.
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Boost your confidence just before approaching the random girl; you can do this by compiling a mental list of the things you are good at, focusing on your natural abilities and talents. This brief time-out can help calm your nerves if you are feeling jittery or unsure and improve your overall self-esteem, making you a more assured speaker.
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Make eye contact before speaking and be sure to smile; these non-verbal cues act as an initial introduction between you and the girl of your choice. Females do well at decoding these nonverbal cues, so make sure they are genuine and that you are not sending a different, contrary message. Warm smiles can also put the girl at ease, as she may nervous as well.
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Focus your conversation on her. Instead of dominating the exchange with stories about yourself, encourage her to talk at least an equal amount. This will give her a more positive memory of you when the conversation is done and also demonstrate your interest in getting to know her better.
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Ask questions to determine your compatibility. Not every girl you talk to is going to be a good match for you, in personality or habit; asking questions about important but general issues, such as hobbies or politics can help you figure out what you have in common. If you hit on a subject you both care a lot about, it can also help determine the direction of your conversation.
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Tips & Warnings
Although not necessary, a brief assessment of your personal appearance prior to approaching a random girl can improve your odds of having a successful conversation; in particular, try to make sure your teeth are clean and that your dress is not easily offensive.
Protect your own safety while talking to random girls; all strangers, even the female variety, can be potentially dangerous, so try not to place yourself in a position to be harmed.
