How to Deal with a Coworker that Hates You

So there you are just minding your own business-and then you notice one of your coworkers doesn't seem to like you very much. It can be difficult to keep professional work relations with a coworker that hates you. Try as you might, it can be difficult to convince a coworker you're really not that bad. These steps will help you deal with a coworker that hates you.

Instructions

1. Find out why your coworker is mad at you. If you want to deal with a coworker that hates you, the first step is to find out why they don't like you. Asking your coworker why they hate you may not be the best approach to take. Try to notice what things your coworker does and doesn't like. Talk to other coworkers and see if they have any input. While you are dealing with the difficult coworker, don't contribute to the problem. Try to stay out of their way, and just get your own work done.

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   Be nice to your coworker. While you are trying to find out what your coworker dislikes about you, try to be as polite as possible. To deal with a coworker that hates you, go out of your way to be extra nice. Bring your coworker cookies, or buy them a small gift card somewhere. Find ways to work together, and help your coworker out whenever you can. While you may not be able to stop your coworker from disliking you, you can build professional working relationships by working together.

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   Talk to your coworker. If you can't get anywhere by working with your coworker and being nice to him/her, try talking to your coworker. To deal with a coworker that hates you, pull them aside and ask for a few minutes to talk. Mention a few things you like about that coworker and ease into the situation. After you have mentioned a few things you admire about your coworker, proceed to talk about those things that are bothering you. Deal with a coworker that hates you by being polite and asking what you can do to change. Ask them those things you might do to build a good work relationship. Listen carefully and try to do those things they tell you.

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   Talk to a manager. If you're coworker isn't very agreeable and talking doesn't get you very far, try talking to a supervisor or a manager. Tell them about how you tried to deal with your coworker and the steps you have taken. If you tell your manager about the actions you have taken, it should show your initiative and add a good amount of credibility to your story. Demonstrate to your manager how the relationship with your coworker is hurting work performance. Your impressive story should urge your manager to take action, once they realize the coworker is hurting your job performance. Ask the manager to deal with the coworker that hates you.