How to Deal With Difficult Neighbors
In this busy society, the words "home sweet home" are more important and inviting than ever. Home is where one unwinds after a busy day, spends time with loved ones and lives a large portion of life. In some cases, though, difficult neighbors can drain the sweetness right out of spending time in your home. When this happens, dealing with them is something that must be done.
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Explain to your neighbors politely where you stand on any issues or problems you have with their behavior. Since different people have different lifestyles or their own spin on how things are done, they might not realize that their behavior is bothering others.
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Compromise if at all possible; life is rarely such that you get your way all the time. Unless the offending behavior is so horrible as to totally disrupt your life, there is no need to turn every disagreeable thing into who is right and who is wrong.
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Make an appeal for understanding by blaming yourself. For example, if your neighbors have a garage band that wakes you up in the morning or plays music too loud at night, blame yourself. Tell them that you have to rise early for work or that it wakes your children up and that otherwise, you wouldn't even bring it up.
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Obtain help from a third party if speaking with your difficult neighbor yourself doesn't work. Ask an unbiased neighbor or a member of the community to offer another helpful point of view in reaching a compromise.
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Avoid gossip with other neighbors. Believing in or spreading gossip about a neighbor escalates an already bad situation. While it's a normal reaction to try to get others to support you, gossiping is not the way to do it. Instead, speak only to other neighbors that may have the same problem with the difficult neighbor. It may help if all of you speak to your neighbors in a friendly way so that they're aware that their behavior is affecting more than one of their neighbors.
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Inform management when there are management services. For example, in an apartment complex, the manager may succeed in speaking with difficult neighbors and situations when you have tried and failed to reach a compromise.
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Continue your own efforts to be a friendly neighbor once the original issue is resolved. Getting to know one another creates friendships at the most and at the least, respect for each other. This makes settling any future difficulties easier.
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Tips & Warnings
Take a peace offering when approaching a difficult neighbor the first time. This could be a gift of cookies or even just a sincere compliment on something you like about your neighbor before bringing up the problem.
In some cases, a difficult neighbor may have crossed the line into illegal activities. If you believe this is the case, alert the proper authorities instead of confronting them yourselves.
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