How to Handle Jealousy in a Cinderella Situation
You are Cinderella before the ball dressed in tatters playing handmaid to your selfish family as they lounge and enjoy the better life. Maybe your situation is not quite so dire but you do feel others are getting the better of everything while you are left out in the cold. You must learn to handle the jealousy you feel in this Cinderella situation so you'll be ready when it is time to slip on that glass slipper and rise above it all.
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Instructions
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Realize the impact your jealousy is having on you. Not only are you having to handle such issues as extra work while others get to be lazy but you are letting it eat you up inside. Remember, no matter how adverse your particular Cinderella situation is only you can control how you feel and react to it so stay calm.
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Count your blessings in the face of jealousy. Forget what the others in your life possess and concentrate on what is yours. Be grateful for friends and the other joys in your life. Think on these when the going is hard.
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Look forward as you deal with the present. You can conquer jealously by working every day to stay positive in speech and actions and keeping in mind that life does not remain static. Everything changes in time and your situation will as well.
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Do good things for others even those who make you feel like Cinderella prior to her happy ending. Be helpful and engage in good deeds with a smile. You will transform yourself and, maybe, others as well. Your "happy ever after" will come, and you will deserve it.
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Distract yourself when the green-eyed monster rears its ugly head. If your half-sister just received a $300.00 cellphone with more than the average bells and whistles get yourself out of there, at least mentally. Guide yourself internally to a place of happiness and calm such as a pristine beach or snowy mountain escape. Enjoy your fantasy till you can handle the envy better.
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Treat your Cinderella situation and resulting jealousy philosophically. Repeat to yourself that being jealous accomplishes nothing but more pain and reacting to it with harsh words or deed results in greater hurt. Make these words your mantra.
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Tips & Warnings
Resist the temptation to try to evoke jealousy in others. While you may receive a very temporary "guilty pleasure" in another's pain this is mean spirited and may lead to further oneupmanship.
