How to Restore Passion
Passion is an essential ingredient in a successful relationship. Many times, relationships that are new will be passionate, but time wears the feelings down. Certain tools can restore those original feelings and a marriage or romance that never experienced passion can become re-energized by both parties being motivated to bring back (or simply "bring") that spark. As is true with any activity or goal one has, the more one becomes educated about it and works at it, the more likely they are to be successful.
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Passion Takes Practice
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Clarify the problem. Do you both feel that there is a lack of passion? Was there once passion and something happened to end it? Is there something one person is doing that weakened those feelings? Consider listening to relationship lectures, CDs, reading relationship books together and/or attending seminars and retreats. These will give you tools to re-invigorate your relationship and keep it strong.
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Set time aside for weekly "first dates". For most people, the first date is a very intense and exciting time. Try to relive that with dressing up and going out together to nice places. Pretend this is the first time you are together and trying to impress the pants off one another (perhaps literally). When a couple that has been married for over ten years go out to dinner, they don't necessarily dress up, go to a nice place, and spend most of the time complaining. On the first date, most likely both parties were charming and courteous. Try to get back to that level of interaction.
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Address your needs. Many times, people that are in relationships for a while begin to take on other roles and identities. Former lovers become a mom and dad, excluding their needs as adults and only taking care of the children. Make time to be alone and develop your relationship together.
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Create what you want rather than complain. Many times woman take relationship issues very personally, become depressed or angry which only makes the problems worse. Take a mature approach and try to work out the problems. Consider a therapist who may be able to help identify root problems and coach both parties in how to overcome challenges.
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Search within yourself in an honest appraisal of what you might be doing to lower the passion in the relationship. Are you working long hours and don't have the energy and time for your partner? Since marriage have you gained weight and stopped dressing and looking as nice as you were when you were dating? Make an effort to change you. Most people will not accept orders from someone else, but if they see you changing for the sake of the relationship, they are likely to feel obligated and do the same.
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