How to Establish a Connection With a Man
So you've had your eye on a guy for some time -- maybe a co-worker, a friend of a friend, or someone you see every day at the coffee shop, but you're just not sure how to create a connection, that little spark that just might lead to something more? Here are a few things to consider trying.
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Instructions
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Catching His Eye
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Build on the connection you have already. If you know him from work, find out what brought him into the profession, what he likes about his job, and how it affects his life. Offer to do him a work-related favor, such as switching shifts, lending an extra hand on a project, or filling in while he's away. One thing you may not know is that men are attracted to women with successful careers - and what better place to show that than at work? So use your crush as motivation to work harder. The more successful you are, the more impressed he's likely to be.
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Become part of his social circle. If you only know him through a mutual friend, then go beyond that connection by getting to know the people he trusts and cares about first-hand. Find out if there's something that bonds them together, and then, if it works for you, make it part of your life as well. The point isn't to cynically manipulate the situation, it's to increase your social capital in a way that creates new connections.
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Don't take things too seriously. Getting to know someone is about expressing interest in a non-threatening way. Use your sense of humor, your good looks, and your life experience to keep things light. The message you want to send is that you're fun, friendly, and open to wherever he's at in terms of a relationship.
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Tips & Warnings
The key to meeting someone new is simple: create value in your own life and then share it freely with others. So even if things don't work out between you and your crush? You've already done something to make yourself a little happier.
