How to Ask a Guy Out After an Awkward First Date
Everyone deserves a second chance. Sometimes, first-date anxiety leads to spilled drinks, uncomfortable pauses in conversation or excessive talking. According to eHarmony, a lack of communication after the first date is a sign that the date did not go well. You can't go back in time to fix the date, but you can try again on a second date. Use preparation and confidence to ask your guy out for another outing.
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Analyze the first date without overanalyzing it. Think about what went wrong on the date. What made the outing awkward? Hone in on the moments where you let anxiety overtake you. Research ways to overcome the anxiety issues. Relax and become comfortable being yourself around the man.
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Think about his interests. With an entire first date finished, you now have information about his interests and preferences. Use that information to think of ideas for a second date that will make him comfortable.
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Plan several dates. Combine your interests and his to come up with options for your second date. Think about what his preferences are, but factor in your own comfort level as well. For example, if he mentioned his love of the beach, but you can't swim, plan a boardwalk stroll or a picnic on the sand. Suggest choosing something fun and exciting, but not unusual.
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Rehearse what to say. Lower the risk of rambling or blurting out too much information by making a list of what you want to say when you ask for a second date. Do not write a speech and then read it; think of what you want your conversation to include and touch on all of those topics.
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Call your guy. Asking for a second date is not a request suited for email or text. According to PC World, text messages are not the appropriate medium for relationship discussions. Pick up the phone and call your guy. Stick to what you rehearsed. Acknowledge the awkwardness of the first date by making a joke about it. Explain why you would like a second date. Be kind and honest about what attracts you to him. Offer your suggestions for a second date, but be open to his ideas.
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Tips & Warnings
Forgive yourself for your first date mistakes.
Wear comfortable clothes that are neither too scant nor too frumpy.
According to a 2008 poll conducted by Elle and msnbc.com, almost two-thirds of men want women to help pay for the first few dates.
