Being "defriended" or dropped by a Facebook friend can produce feelings of anxiety. To prevent misunderstandings, find out and verify whether a Facebook friend has dropped you. While there is no fast way to find out why the number of friends dropped, start with a list of suspects and do your research.
Log in and Investigate
Log onto Facebook.com and type the name of the person you suspect may have dropped you in the search box in the upper right hand corner. If this person is still your friend, the name should appear in the box as you type it.
Continue typing the name in the search box if it does not appear automatically. Press the magnifying glass search button next to the search box after you have finished typing the name. Facebook will display a list of results.
Look for the person in question on this list. If they have dropped you, the "Add a friend" link may appear to the right of their photo and name, indicating you are not friends.
Use Other Facebook Users
Check out the page of one of your mutual friends. Look up a friend you have in common with the person you suspect dropped you. On the left side of the page, find the section reading "Mutual friends" and click "See all." A list will pop up.
Scroll through the list and see if the suspected dropper is there. If so, he or she is still your friend.
Just below the "Mutual friends" box is the "Friend box." Click on "See all" in this box. Scroll through and find see if the alleged dropper on this list. If this person is on your friend's list but not listed under mutual friends, she or he has likely dropped you.
Ask a trusted friend or family member to log in to Facebook and search for the person you feel may have dropped you. When the person in question comes up in search results, ask your helper to click "View friends" to see whether or not you are on that list.
Tips & Warnings
- It is possible for Facebook users to delete accounts entirely.
- To avoid misunderstandings, always verify the de-friending before firing off an angry e-mail.
- Avoid nasty Facebook drama--don't post an emotional, angry reaction about the friend who dropped you as your Facebook status.
- If you want to know who dropped you based on a decreased number of friends, there is no way to immediately know. Brainstorm; did you post anything recently that might have offended them? You can formulate a list of potential defrienders and use this method to find out who did it.
- If your friend can find the potential defriender listed and you cannot, this means the person has not only dropped you, but blocked you as well.
- Facebook occasionally has errors and high usage times. During these times, the auto-fill function in the search box may not function properly. If the name doesn't come up there right away, it doesn't necessarily mean they have dropped you--it could be a technical error.
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