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Step 1
First and most important, don't try too hard to be cool or you look pathetic. Cool is only legit if it is effortless. If you are cool you need to act as though you don't know it. If you act like you think you're cool, people will think you are a "wanna-be-tough-doof". And nobody likes that guy.
If you have to promote your own image, if you ever tell anyone you are "cool," you are a "tough-doof-loser". So never ever tell anyone you are "cool". Except for me, of course, in this article. I'm so almost cool I can get away with it and I'm trying to help you. -
Step 2
Cool has nothing to do with appearance. You don't have to be Fonzi or Harrison Ford. It's all about attitude and confidence. If you are cool you are just as happy alone as you are with a bunch of people. You like hanging out with yourself, listening to your awesome music, dancing in the car and making sophisticated conversation that nobody ever hears. If you don't like hanging out with you, who else will want to?
Independence and self reliance is very very cool.
You also need to learn how to save money, or at least avoid debt. Debt is not cool. Being broke is not cool. You don't have to have a lot of money to be cool but you need to be self sufficient.
Again, self-reliance is cool.
Cool doesn't need anyone. But cool people like and are interested in everyone. If you're cool you are just as likely to flirt with the old man at Wal-Mart as the crazy hot bartender with perfect forearms. You will dance with the old lady with a cane instead of the hot blond with perfect store bought boobs. That's why everybody likes being around a cool person. -
Step 3
Cool people never ever over react or fly off the handle. That's not cool at all. Cool people are understated but solid. If a ten year old tries to steal your purse out of the basket in the grocery store you don't go crazy yelling at them. You don't come unglued and risk looking absolutely lame. You look them in the eye and talk in a hushed tone. You think about Clint Eastwood, that's cool. A screaming middle aged woman is not cool or scary. A fearless, in your face, glacier cold woman can stop your heart.
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Step 4
Finally, listen to everyone but never ever try to use language that's not your own. Do not say "rap" "home dog" "bling bling" (you will go to cool hell for that one) "crib" or "posse". The problem is you have no idea when words go out of style. And if you use a word that's dead and gone, so is your hope of being cool. Using out of date words makes you sound ancient. And don't curse just to sound cool. That just makes you sound desperate.
That's enough for today. Go slow, be cool and relax, you'll make it.
Comments
michaelangeloh said
on 1/19/2010 Being Cool like so many things... is beyond appearance. Most insightful and informative article. Thanks so much for sharing... 5* +Recco
2245parks said
on 12/29/2009 Its a 5!
skypilot69 said
on 12/27/2009 like it 5*
missnye said
on 12/8/2009 sidebar...cool kids are cheaper to clothe. Great article!*****
bakerthebrand said
on 11/26/2009 This was a really cool post. I love this line that you use "Being cool has nothing to do with age, economics, race or education." From one cool person to another. 5 stars, but would give you 10 stars.. but it doesn't exist yet.