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Step 1
First, you should find a private location where the two of you can be alone and speak uninterrupted. May I suggest you send the kids away for the evening.
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Step 2
Secondly, prepare for any response you may receive. Don't lose your temper or become argumentative. Be prepared for your spouse to try and lay guilt on you or become verbally abusive with you. Try to maintain your cool.
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Step 3
Third, know exactly what you wish to say and when speaking always say I rather than you. Speak from your heart and let them know how you feel. Don't place blame on them.
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Step 4
Fourth, you may want to have this conversation in a public place where your spouse may some show some restraint. You both want to stay rational.
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Step 5
Fifth, if children are involved let them know how you want them to still be an important part of the children' life and that you are not taking the kids away.
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Step 6
Lastly, don't try to solve all the issues in this initial conversation. You both need time now to reflect and work thimgs out in your head, while acquiring some professional advice.














