How to Say No to a Girl Without Hurting Her Feelings
Asking someone out can be one of the most daunting prospects in the whole world. Those few terrifying moments suspended between the asking and the answering can feel like an eternity. In the matter of two little letters - NO - an entire world can be crushed. Nobody wants to be rejected, but the truth is, it happens to everyone at some point. Girls can be especially sensitive in these situations and should be handled with care. So, if a girl finds you cool and interesting enough to ask you out when you would rather she didn't, be a real man and treat her with the kindness and respect she deserves.
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If a girl has the nerve to ask you out in the first place, you must be cool to her. Start out by telling her how much you appreciate the offer and how flattered you are that she asked, even if you have no intention of going out with her. This will make her feel that you care about her and her feelings. Regardless of your intentions, by making a girl feel like the last thing in the world you'd want to do is hurt her, she's more likely to take the rejection a bit softer as you've helped create an emotional crash pad for her.
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The second and most important step is to be honest and straightforward with her. Do not leave room for second guessing, alternate interpretations or ambiguity. This will prove to be more of a hassle in the long run. If you lead her to believe that there's the tiniest possibility of the two of you going out some time in the future, she will continue to ask you out until you finally say "no." Whatever the reason, tell her as kindly as possible. If it's that you're already in a relationship, you just got out of one, your career is way more important to you, you just don't look at her that way, you'd prefer to date men than women - just tell her. More likely than not, she's going to find out the real reason eventually and it's better to come off as kind of mean for a few moments than a liar for a lifetime.
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Remind her once again what a great girl she is. If you tell a girl she is smart, beautiful, funny or wonderful, she will do her best to believe you.
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The next time you see her, be cool. If you act awkward or ignore her, it diminishes the fact that you were so wonderful by letting her down easy in the first place. If you're able to man up and treat her as though nothing bad transpired between the two of you, she'll appreciate it and be more likely to speak highly of you when your name comes up.
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