How to Fix a Marriage After Betrayal
Fixing a marriage after betrayal is not going to be easy. It will take a lot of effort by both parties, patience and possibly even professional intervention. When the bonds of trust have been broken, repairing them is essential to fixing a marriage. If both parties are willing and able to work on the marriage, it is possible the marriage can be saved.
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Instructions
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Have a discussion of truth. Simply put, sit down at home when it is just the two of you, and put everything out in the open. This is confession time, and this is also the time for both of you to listen to one another. Set a timer to allow equal time for both of you to speak and listen if necessary. If one person dominates the discussion, the other may feel less important.
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Set aside a daily time to be together. For some busy couples and families, this may seem impossible, but surely there is five minutes you can plan on "couples time". It doesn't matter what time of day; it only matters that it is you and your marriage partner alone and together.
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Consult a professional marriage counselor to inquire about services and if they are willing and able to help you. To fix a marriage after betrayal, it is common to enlist the help of a professional. Remember, professionals are trained to assist and help you work through the emotional issues of both marriage and betrayal.
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Create a daily jar of love for each of you. In this jar, each of you writes down several things that you would like to see your partner do for one day. Fold this slip of paper in half and put in the jar. Every morning, each of you draws one from your partner's jar and follows through. Examples of daily activities may be frequent hugs, favorite flowers, love poems or letter, household chore or anything else that if your spouse did, you would feel that they did it for you out of love.
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Renew your vows. From this point on, each of you will vow to be faithful. Look at this as a new beginning. If possible, plan a mini-honeymoon following the vow renewal to make it seem more like a new marriage. A getaway in your hometown can be just as effective as a trip to Hawaii.
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Tips & Warnings
Keep the lines of communication open and be receptive to your spouse's thoughts and feelings.
Be patient and keep at it.
Do not use the betrayal against your spouse in a fight; you must be willing to let go.
