How to Tell Your Husband About an Unexpected Pregnancy
Unplanned pregnancy can be a scary reality for many people. There are over three million unplanned pregnancies in the United States each year, according to the American Pregnancy Helpline. Whether it was a broken condom, birth control failure or simply lack of judgment, accidents can and do occur. Telling your husband about the unexpected pregnancy may be scary, but it is important that you remain calm and approach him openly.
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Take time to calm yourself before revealing the pregnancy to your husband. After the initial shock has subsided, you will be able to think more rationally and talk about the situation more evenly.
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Establish your own wishes for this pregnancy before talking to your husband. Although this decision does involve both parties, the choice is ultimately affecting your body, making it important to access your own emotions prior to discussions with others, according to Just Mommies.
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Prepare yourself for the conversation. If your husband is totally against the idea of children, be prepared for a more negative reaction than if you were simply planning on waiting to conceive.
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Find time in which the two of you can sit down and talk. According to the American Pregnancy Helpline, you should choose a time in which both you and your husband are in reasonably good moods, relaxed and around minimal distractions. In addition, waiting too long could anger your husband since he will feel as though you were keeping the pregnancy from him. According to Just Mommies, the longer you wait, the harder it will be to share the news.
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Remember that both of you contributed to the unplanned pregnancy. Do not try to place the blame on your husband or take the blame yourself, according to Just Mommies.
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Be open to conversations about the pros and cons of the pregnancy, the options you have, and how each other is feeling. Be supportive of each other as this is an emotional time for everyone involved.
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Tips & Warnings
Just Mommies recommends expressing your excitement if you are happy about the unexpected pregnancy or adding humor to lighten the mood. According to the American Pregnancy Helpline, you should also avoid setting a negative tone with an opening such as "I have some bad news." Lastly, do not play guessing games. Be direct with the news.
