How to Let a Man Know You Are Interested
Each woman has individual instincts and tendencies when it comes to signaling attraction, but some approaches are better than others. If you want to let a man know you are interested, you might benefit from a 2007 study at the University of the Philippines Baguio which identified nine different ways people signal interest to one another and rated them in terms of how they were received. Picking the highest rated of these approaches might get you off to a great start.
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Instructions
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Be subtle. Coming on too strong might scare the guy off. Touching is the perfect example. A subtle touch--a quick hand on his arm, for instance--shows your interest. A too-aggressive touch shows you're dangerous. A subtle approach is generally more pleasing, and it will give him more time to think the attraction was his own idea.
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Smile. An honest smile is a universal signal of fondness, and it makes you more beautiful, too.
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Say hello. A warm greeting whenever you see him certainly beats shier behaviors, which could come across as cold or indifferent.
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Start a conversation. This is maybe the trickiest step. Talk about something interesting and neutral--a topic which could be discussed by any two people, attracted or not. The weather is a cliche because it is the ultimate common ground. Use it as a model. Bring up a thought or a perception that matters to you.
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Generate intimacy. Bit by bit, your goal is to get to know him and to be known by him. Obviously, once he knows you very well he'll know about your feelings toward him. So move things in that direction, gradually. Reveal information about yourself, and inquire about him.
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Ask him for his opinions. It's an easy way to get him to talk about anything from movies and music to global politics or philosophical ideas.
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Show interest in what he says. Active listening is an excellent indicator of your interest. It won't hurt his ego, either.
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Offer to help him. Be careful, though. You don't want to seem too ingratiating. If the situation arises where he clearly needs help with something and you are easily able to be of service, go ahead and volunteer.
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Create a way to spend time with him. Shared tasks are a good way to do this. If you both need to shop for lamps, do research in a library, or visit the DMV, then you have a window of opportunity. You'll be letting him know you're interested, and you'll have the chance to get to know each other better without rushing a request for date. A question like, "I need to run down to the post office. Want to join me?" rolls easily enough off the lips.
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Tips & Warnings
Some women, when they're attracted to someone, might focus a lot of their attention on excessively managing their own physical appearance. According to this study, though, these efforts are some of the least effective. So, sure--look nice--but don't overdo the preening. It just isn't necessary.
