How to Make Friends With Deaf People

Deaf and hard-of-hearing people account for approximately ten percent of the U.S. population and are becoming increasingly visible as advances in technology make it easier for them to participate in business and social settings. They have a unique method of communicating that may intimidate those who do not understand their language. However, it is not difficult to befriend a deaf person. The rewards of any friendship make it worth approaching those who are not quite as different as initially perceived.

Instructions

1. Learn how to communicate with a deaf person. Most deaf people use American Sign Language (ASL) as their primary method of communication. Enroll in a sign language class at your local college, university or community center. If you are unable to find a class in your area, try ASL websites such as ASL Pro and ASL Browser, or purchase an ASL instructional DVD or computer program.

2. Make yourself easy to lip-read. Not all deaf people use sign language and may prefer to converse through lip-reading. Speak clearly and normally as you would with a hearing person. Do not over-enunciate or place unnecessary emphasis on words. Maintain eye contact and take care not to turn your face away. Facial hair may hinder a deaf person's ability to lip-read. Be patient.

3. Participate in deaf events and functions. Deaf people have many clubs and organizations that cover a wide range of activities. This is a great way to meet deaf people who share your interests. If you are unsure of where to find deaf events, contact a local organization that provides services to the Deaf, or drop by a sign language class and inquire with the instructor. Some states may have websites that announce deaf events in your area.

4. Volunteer at a local church, school or community center where deaf people are present. Your services are appreciated and this will help you meet more deaf individuals in your community.

5. If you would like to learn more about deaf people in an educational setting, take classes on deaf studies at a local college or university. Some campuses such as the University of California, Northridge have large populations of deaf students and offer degrees in Deaf Studies and related fields.

Tips & Warnings

• You can communicate with a deaf person in ways other than sign language or lip-reading. Try text messaging or instant messaging programs on cell phones. Word processor programs may be used in place of pen and paper when available.

• Include a deaf person in your conversations at social gatherings. A deaf person may be unable to follow a spoken conversation in a group and may feel alienated. Consider hiring a sign language interpreter if you are hosting an event to help a deaf person converse easily with others.

References

• 35 million North Americans Suffer From Hearing Loss
• Welcome to Deaf Culture
• ASL Info

Resources

• ASL Pro
• ASL Browser