Things You'll Need:
- Self image
- Peace
- Confidence
- Pickiness
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Step 1
Don't . . ."I'm fat." Too many women live their lives trapped in the tyranny of the size-0 model. Shallow Hals might be bothered by a few extra pounds, but real men look deeper for things like character, experience, wit, a pretty smile, and confidence. A man wants to be with a woman who is sure of herself.
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Step 2
Let him be!"I don't know where he was Friday night." The last thing this guy wants is to be bugged about where he is, what he's doing, and who he's with every five minutes. If he's worth your time, he's the kind of guy who can be trusted. Learn to trust him before you spoil any chance at a decent relationship.
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Step 3
Back off ..."I feel like he's distant all of a sudden!" Some men want to stay close and connected all the time. Others need their space from time to time. Either way, keep the channels of communication open. But don't smother him with questions. It could be the sign of something deeper amiss in your relationship, and you might want to take a deeper look ... later. If you pester him, he'll be out the door and out of your life!
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Step 4
Give his ex a rest ..."He talks about his ex too much." When a girl gets dumped, she calls her friends up, takes a trip to the mall, eats too much ice cream, complains on Facebook ... something. Women are better at getting it out there. If he's telling you about Miss Ex, it could be that you're the first he's ever told about this pain he's had. Give him time. If it goes on too long, then you have issues. But if you're too sensitive, you're just being jealous.
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Step 5
© Rex Features"I feel like his family judges me!" Unfortunately, families can be a tough sell. But if you really like this guy, he's worth the battle. Still, some women are so insecure that they magnify a bit of initial skepticism into something far more sinister. Relax. With time, they will come to love the confident you!
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Step 6
She calls too often!"His mom calls too much!" It's true - some guys are real momma's boys. This is something you either need to work through as a couple. Talk to him calmly and clearly about it. "I love and respect your mother, but I feel as though she tries to intrude in our relationship" is better than "Tell that old crank to leave us alone!" If he wants to keep old ties tight, it's a good sign: he's a lot more likely to stay close to you as well.
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Step 7
Chill out, lady! He's making up his mind."I feel like Katy Perry - he's hot then he's cold!" Yeah, some guys can be very indecisive. This is where you need to decide what you're looking for in a man. Strong, forward men of action come with their own strings, you know. This guy just could be worth waiting for. If not, move on. But don't expect him to change his character and move faster than he's able to.
