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Step 1
Stop Gossip. Many times your sarcastic comments can start a gossip train. Imagine your complaints are the fire and nosy people are the gasoline. Many coworkers and casual friends in churches or social clubs are willing to be social and gossip at your expense.
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Step 2
Act Confident. Many times after a break up your confidence may dip to low levels. Do something each day to boost your confidence. This could be by wearing new underwear, trying a new hair style, wearing make up, or making the decision to be more outgoing.
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Step 3
Casual Friends. Start hanging out with winners. Start to think about people you know who like to gossip about other people. These are people you want to be nice to, but if they try to get onto the subject of your relationship issues, change the subject. Change the tone and subject of the conversation. If someone is constantly gossiping about other people refuse to participate. For example if someone starts talking about how Bob is cheating on his wife Sue with Jeanine in Accounting and there was a shouting match... etc. Choose to not join into making comments and gossiping about others. Keep your lips sealed and choose not to talk bad about other people in the office.
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Step 4
Keep it Moving. Many times you will have to move on from people who don't have anything positive to talk about. They are like vultures seeking to extract useful information to use against you. These may have been people in the past who told you about other people's downfalls in life through gossip. Never divulge any information. Be cordial, chat about generic subjects, and keep it moving when the conversation turns personal or towards gossip.
