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Step 1
Control your own emotions first. It's very important that you remain calm and don't allow yourself to get carried away by your anger. This will only cloud your judgment and make it harder for you to convey your thoughts and feelings.
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Step 2
Speak to your coworker directly and stand up for yourself. Find an appropriate time to talk to them and don't let yourself be intimidated by their attitude or presence. There is nothing wrong with being forward and voicing your concerns as long as you do so in a respectful manner.
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Step 3
Explain how their behavior needs to change. In order to create a lasting change your coworker needs to know exactly what their offending actions are, so don't be afraid to tell it like it is. Just make sure that you aren't too broad with your objections, and that you cite specific instances when this behavior has occurred.
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Step 4
Make sure that they understand your position. This can easily be accomplished at the end of your conversation by asking them to explain how their behavior will be different in the future. If they seem disengaged or aloof during their explanation then it's possible that they weren't paying attention, or are relatively indifferent to your complaints.
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Step 5
Report them to management if nothing changes. Sometimes there are people who refuse to change their behavior despite your honest and sincere attempt at a resolution. In this instance, it is a good idea to contact a manager or supervisor who can help to resolve the conflict.
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Step 6
Contact your employee union or your state's department of labor. If your managers or supervisors appear to be ineffective or unwilling to assist you in solving the problem then it may be a good idea to get in touch with someone who can institute a change. If you belong to a labor union they may be able to help you, otherwise you can get in touch with your state's department of labor and ask them to launch an inquiry into the treatment of employees at your workplace.
