There comes a time in most peoples' careers when they realize that their boss is wrong. It may be that you were scheduled for a certain time and he or she thought you were supposed to be in earlier. It could be something personal in your life that he's butted into. Regardless of the reasons, it's inadvisable to argue with your boss. Unless you plan to leave the job at the end of the conversation, don't get into an argument with those above you at work. Instead, try to avoid the argument and keep yourself calm.
Take a deep breath when you start to feel angry with your boss, especially when you're right in front of them. Count to 10 and see how you feel afterward. That's usually all it takes to get yourself calm enough to avoid an argument.
Look at the situation from his side. If you're getting yelled at for being five minutes late, this may not seem a big deal to you but it could mean lost money for the business. Employers have different goals than their employees, so you may not understand where he's coming from until you look at it from his side.
Wait before speaking and choose your words carefully. When you're upset, you may say something you end up regretting. As soon as you notice you're angry, make a conscious decision to quickly analyze everything you're about to say. If you'd be unhappy with someone saying that to you, then don't say it to your boss.
Remember why you're there. You have this job because you need money and stability. There's a chance that an argument with your employer could lead to termination. Remember what's most important, and keep this perspective.
Talk about the situation with someone other than your boss. Go to a trustworthy coworker who has been in your situation. Better yet, talk about it to a friend or significant other that isn't connected to your workplace. Spend half an hour venting about the injustice of your job, then let the matter rest. Be sure to return the favor next time your friend has a hard time at her work.
Tips & Warnings
- Remember that as familiar as you may be with your boss, he isn't your friend. Always treat him with the respect of someone higher up the corporate ladder.
- If your boss has harassed you or done something illegal, instead of arguing visit Human Resources and report him immediately.
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