How to Flirt with a Guy / Best Body Language Tips for Hands - 101

You're body is always communicating: learn to speak its language.

Body-language fluency is a powerful way to learn how to say just what you mean, without saying a word.

Many of the gestures we make convey telling bits of information to others, intentionally or not. And how often those signals are interpreted correctly depends largely on your body-vocabulary.

Focusing on how hand gestures may be interpreted by men, here's a brief guide that describes how to flirt effectively with a man by avoiding common pitfalls.

Naturally, these "steps" can be done in any order, but hopefully not all at once.

Things You'll Need

• Confidence

Instructions

1. Grab or Hang Arm from Shoulder:

   When you grab or hang your hand on a man's shoulder, this conveys buddy-hood or pal status. He may want a buddy or pal in his significant other; if you do too, that's great. But if your intent is to convey something more intimate, avoid it.

2. Hold or Caress His Hand:

   Both of these gestures convey intimacy. But if you're on a first-date, it may be too much, too soon: it can convey a sense of "commitment" and "trust" to a man, which if done prematurely, can read as clingy and overly-familiar, and just plain freak him out.

3. Place Hand on Back or Rub Shoulders:

   Do -not- attempt this unless you're absolutely sure he -is- that into you. On a first-date this would read bizarre on many a man's radar.

4. Place Hand on the Hip:

   This is best done very lightly and casually, if you're on a first date or just flirting --and not for longer than a few moments, because the last thing you want your man to feel is that he's a crutch for you.

5. Place Hand on Knee, Inner Thigh:

   This is probably the best way to get a guy's attention, or determine his level of interest. It's a cut-to-the-chase gesture, and should only be done when you have his undivided attention. It feels great, and his response should be abundantly clear, very quickly. If his response is weak? Don't walk, run.

Tips & Warnings

• Ear or Hair Caressing: Unless you're engaged, please don't be that girl.

• Hand on Face, Chest, or Anywhere else: No, No, and No.