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Step 1
Give Her Space and Time
While this might sound like exactly the opposite of what you are wanting to accomplish, it is imperative that you let her miss you in her own time. The more you push and chase, the more she is instinctually going to pull away. If she said she needed some time and space, it is important to take her seriously.
The last thing you want to do is have her rolling her eyes when she sees your number or messages and you definitely do not want her to get into the habit of trying to avoid you. Once that habit unconsciously begins it is going to be much harder to get her back to a place where she looks forward to talking to you again. -
Step 2
Give Yourself Space and Time
There are many different reasons why a couple breaks up. Either because they fight often, one has cheated on the other, one doesn’t meet the others needs, etc.. The only way for a relationship to work going forward is to be clear about why you broke up in the first place. Taking time out for awhile is the opportunity for you to reassess the relationship from a safe distance.
Did you cheat on her? The question to ask yourself would be - why did you do that? Was there something missing from the relationship with your ex that had you out there looking for someone else?
Did she cheat on you? Again the solution would be to try and discover what was missing in your relationship that made her want to look elsewhere? Were you taking each other for granted? Was she being ignored? -
Step 3
Consider The Real Reasons That You Want Your Ex-girlfriend Back
Figure out exactly why you want your ex-girlfriend back. Is it because you truly love her and can’t imagine life without her, or is there a different reason such as fear of being alone, or because you miss the comfort of the relationship? It is important that you get to the bottom of your own motives. There is no sense in driving yourself crazy to get back into a relationship that isn’t the right one for you in the first place. -
Step 4
Get Out More and Do Something Different
There are two reasons why you should get out and do new things. The first is that it will help you rebuild your own self confidence and remember a life outside of your old relationship.
The second is, that chances are when she hears about it, she will be intrigued. She might start wondering why you weren’t doing those things with her. She might start spending her time away from you wondering what you are doing and who you are doing it with. These are exactly the things you want her to be wondering. -
Step 5
Play The Mutual Friend Game
How you play this one is vitally important in getting your ex interested again. When you make plans with mutual friends be sure to look your absolute best. Trying wearing a different look than usual. In other words, if you normally wear jeans and t-shirts, the next time you see any of her girlfriends wear a pair of slacks and nice sweater. They might not realize exactly what is different about you, they will just know that you look really good - which is exactly what you want you ex-girlfriend to hear when they report back.
Another important thing to remember is to absolutely, under no circumstances, bring her name up in the conversation. Nothing will get a woman crazier than when she asks her friends, “Did he say anything about me?” And her friends honestly reply “No, your name never even came up.” Trust me, it will drive her nuts and get her thinking. -
Step 6
Start Dating Other People
Again this has a duel benefit. The first of coarse is that she might get jealous hearing about it but the second benefit is that you might truly meet someone that you like as much or even more than you ex.
Do not ask someone out though simply to try and make her jealous. It should be someone you are honestly attracted to and might want to get to know better. This way if it doesn’t work out with your ex after all you’ve started moving on even if that wasn’t your original intention.
