How to Write a Sympathy Card with Real Feeling

Writing a sympathy card isn't easy for most people. But it gets a bit easier if you remember the purpose of the card is to let family and friends of the deceased person know you support them. Don't put pressure on yourself to write the most wonderful message ever - remember it's the heartfelt memory you write about the person that will be treasured for years to come.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Pen
• Card
• Friend or Family's mailing address
• Envelope
• Stamp

1. Here's what you need to do to get a sympathy card to family or friends:
   
   1. Choose a suitable card. Most stores offering greeting cards also carry sympathy cards with some type of message inside. Or, you can send a blank note card to which you just add your message on the inside.

2. 2. Get ready to write your message. If you didn't know the person well, your message may be similar to one of the following:
   
   My deepest sympathies on your loss.
   
   My sympathies to you and your family during this difficult time.
   
   We are thinking of you.
   
   If you knew the deceased person well, you may want to think about a special memory you have that you can share with their family and friends. Most people feel receiving cards with personal memories gives them support and help during the healing process. Some tips to writing a personal memory include:
   
   Tell the memory in your own words - even 1-2 sentences will do.
   
   Focus on how the memory made you feel about the deceased.
   
   Write what feels natural and comfortable for you.
   
   Practice writing your memory on a piece of scratch paper before writing the final version on the card.
   
   If more than a week has passed since the funeral, you might want to start your note off with something like: "I wanted to send you a note to tell you how much ___ meant to me." Then, tell your personal memory.

3. 3. Add a closing message if you include a personal message. Consider using something similar to:
   
   You and your family are in my thoughts.
   
   My thoughts are with you.
   
   My sincerest sympathy.
   
   We are thinking of you.

4. 4. Sign your name or that of your family, i.e., "John and June Smith & Family".

5. 5. Deliver your card at the visitation or funeral. Remember to include your return address on the envelope-this way, family members can more easily recall who you are after the confusion of the deceased's death has diminished.
   
   Just remember, your sympathy card will be appreciated as an acknowledgement during their time of loss. Your heartfelt sympathy card will also become a treasured memory the family will remember for years to come.

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