How to Overcome the Fear of Asking a Girl Out
No one likes to have their pride stomped on. A key reason you may be afraid to ask a girl out on a date is because of rejection, which can deeply wound your pride. This places a lot of pressure on you because guys usually make the first move when it comes to asking a girl out. If you are determined to ask a girl out, you can overcome this fear by applying these steps.
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Overcoming Your Fear
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Gain confidence in yourself. Don't let your nervousness show. Women admire a man who approaches them in a manner that exudes he is comfortable with himself. If you're confident, your nervousness will diminish and your high self-esteem will be visible to others. If you lack confidence, you will stumble on your words as you speak---a turnoff for most women. Think about what you want to say to the girl beforehand; then speak naturally and with surety.
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Take good physical care of yourself. If you groom yourself well, you will feel better about yourself; your confidence will increase and your fear will decrease. Although looks may not be the most important factor to many girls, it still counts. Engage in proper hygiene, develop an exercise routine to stay fit, be conscious of what you wear, how you smell and how you style your hair.
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Get to know the girl before you ask her out. If you know her friends, ask them about her likes and dislikes. This will help you to determine where to take her out, what kinds of food she enjoys and if she would be interested in you. If you're not familiar with her friends, speak with her, but find out about her background and interests before asking her out, to ensure there is some degree of compatibility.
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Refrain from using clichés, and speak pleasantly and articulately when you ask her out. Knowing how to approach her helps to reduce your fear. You don't have to be a great speaker, but you must speak respectfully and with individualism. For example, instead of saying, "Hey baby, wanna go out?" use a lead-in such as, "I enjoy talking to you and would like to get to know you better." If she's receptive, ask her out.
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Don't create an elaborate setting just to ask her out. This isn't a wedding proposal, so keep it simple and effective. There's no guarantee she will say yes; keeping it simple helps to maintain your pride if she says no. The more experiences you have asking girls out, the more likely you are to overcome your fear.
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