How to Ask a Friend on a Date - For Him

C'mon ... what's the worst that could happen?

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Telephones
• Breath Fresheners
• Cologne
• Newspaper Movie Listings
• Concert Tickets
• Movie Tickets

1. Take advantage of the telephone. If things start going south, you can excuse yourself from the conversation easily.

2. Be sure to identify yourself when you call. This saves both of you from the uncomfortable "who?"

3. Try not to blurt out your invitation. Ease into it. Start a conversation. If you start having second thoughts, you can always call back later.

4. Make it easy on yourself. A movie is better than lunch or dinner. It doesn't require much conversation, and you don't end up staring at each other all night.

5. Bring up a movie that's been recently released. Ask if she's seen it. If she has, you've opened the door to talking about films. If she hasn't, ask her if she'd like to.

6. If she says no, be direct. Ask, "Is that a bad time or are you just not interested?" Her answer could surprise you, and you're leaving it up to her to decide how to handle it. If she's really your friend, she won't be brutal with you.

Tips & Warnings

• Just in case she's following "The Rules" (see Related Sites), be sure to ask your friend out well in advance.
• If you say you will call her, do it within a couple of days. Remember, she's your friend.

[mazinix]

on 7/3/2009 'It’s Better to Try and Fail Than to Have Never Tried At All'

Losing somone as a friend is better than continuing a friendship when you want more. It saps your confidence and will prevent you moving on to bigger and better things

If she's not mature enough / cares enough about the friendship enough to make the effort and work through any unrequited emotions you may have, she's really not worth keeping as a friend anyways.

So there is really only one option. Be true to yourself, be honest with your friend, If worst comes to worst, you will find out that the person isn't all that you think they are, and you will have the opportunity to rid yourself of someone that will only drag you down in future.

But if best comes to best, and you find that your friend has just been waiting for the man to make the first move (which they usually do,) you might just start something that will last a...

[msrbellacullen]

on 9/11/2008 if you really like a girl, don't flirt with other girls. treat her differently ( but not like freaky or anything)( always say hi, make her laugh or atleast try, and be a friend) girls usually can tell when a guy has been staring at them so if she catches you looking, look her in the eyes, hold her gaze a few seconds and look away.usually she will get that she is special. if you are to shy to ask her out directlu just get on that subject ( even if you're nervous), if she likes you too you'll most-likely end up asking eachother out at the same time. girls usually can tell when a guy has been staring at them so if she catches you looking, look her in the eyes, hold her gaze a few seconds and look away.

[Vincent1]

on 12/13/2007 Hey dudes I have the same problem, except there's a catch: she used to like me about a year ago; but now I like her and I'm unsure about how she feels and I'm extremely shy. PLEASE HELP ME!!!

[d_saum]

on 1/30/2007 this should be re-titled and the word friend removed. Me asking a friend to a movie wouldn't appear as a date to any of my female friends. If you want to do start getting intimate, you need to go a step further than a "movie".

Me personally.. if Im going to try to make the move from Friend to Boyfriend, Im going to do one of two things:

1. Just come right out and say "Hey... Let's go on a date!" and take it from there....

OR

2. Be much more subtle about it and try to get physically closer to that person. For example, I'll ask her over to watch a movie at my place and if we are snuggling, well, thats a good sign. If she sits on the other couch... not a good sign.

Alcohol is also a great way to break the ice. I'm not saying get her to pass out and then jump all over her. I just mean that a drink or two can loosen her up, and also let you relax enough to maybe be a little more courageous.

This article ensures that you get nowhere fast unless you are confident enough to do the rest yourself....which, if thats the case, you don't need this article to tell you how to ask a "friend" out to a movie.

Dave

on 8/27/2006 If you are really friends with this person, it might not be obvious that you want to go to a movie as a date rather than as friends. Don't assume they know what your intentions are.