How to Ask a Friend on a Date - For Her
Go ahead. Ask. It's OK, what's the worst thing that could happen - you learn how he really feels?
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Things You'll Need
- Telephones
- Breath Fresheners
- Perfume
- Concert Tickets
- Dinner Reservations
Instructions
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Make the first move - men have traditionally borne the burden of asking women out. No more.
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Do something you enjoy together. Since you're already friends, you have an idea of what interests him. Find an event that you know he'll enjoy.
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Make it happen. Some women can just ask for what they want; others tend to be more shy or uncomfortable about that. If you're too shy to ask him in person, call him or e-mail him.
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Tell him you saw such-and-such was happening on a particular day and you thought you'd like to go. Would he like to go with you? The trick is to sound like you're going to go anyway. This takes the pressure off of both of you to make it formal.
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Take a chance - one of the biggest fears for many people is "ruining the relationship." Get over it. If he says no, do you really believe he won't be your friend anymore? You'll most likely flatter him. Avoid the awkwardness by being casual about it. Leave him a way to say no without making either of you feel bad.
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Don't beat yourself up about how stupid you were if he does say no. You've accomplished something here: He knows you like him. Now leave the ball in his court. If he makes a counteroffer, you're in!
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If he backs off and acts awkward, give him time to get over it, and resume your friendship when he is ready.
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Don't, under any circumstances, ask him out more than twice. If you've ever been on the receiving end of a crush, you understand how uncomfortable this can be.
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Tips & Warnings
Think about why you are such good friends. If you have romantic feelings for him, it's best to figure out if there is a chance for the two of you as a couple, as opposed to standing by as he asks out your best friend.
This could hurt your friendship, but being honest with yourself and your friend is worth the risk.
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mazinix
Jul 03, 2009
'ItÂ’s Better to Try and Fail Than to Have Never Tried At All' Losing somone as a friend is better than continuing a friendship when you want more. It saps your confidence and will prevent you moving on to bigger and better things If she's not mature enough / cares enough about the friendship enough to make the effort and work through any unrequited emotions you may have, she's really not worth keeping as a friend anyways. So there is really only one option. Be true to yourself, be honest with your friend, If worst comes to worst, you will find out that the person isn't all that you think they are, and you will have the opportunity to rid yourself of someone that will only drag you down in future. But if best comes to best, and you find that your friend has just been waiting for the man to make the first move (which they usually do,) you might just start something that will last a... -
msrbellacullen
Sep 11, 2008
if you really like a girl, don't flirt with other girls. treat her differently ( but not like freaky or anything)( always say hi, make her laugh or atleast try, and be a friend) girls usually can tell when a guy has been staring at them so if she catches you looking, look her in the eyes, hold her gaze a few seconds and look away.usually she will get that she is special. if you are to shy to ask her out directlu just get on that subject ( even if you're nervous), if she likes you too you'll most-likely end up asking eachother out at the same time. girls usually can tell when a guy has been staring at them so if she catches you looking, look her in the eyes, hold her gaze a few seconds and look away.
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msrbellacullen
Sep 11, 2008
if you really like a girl, don't flirt with other girls. treat her differently ( but not like freaky or anything)( always say hi, make her laugh or atleast try, and be a friend) girls usually can tell when a guy has been staring at them so if she catches you looking, look her in the eyes, hold her gaze a few seconds and look away.usually she will get that she is special. if you are to shy to ask her out directlu just get on that subject ( even if you're nervous), if she likes you too you'll most-likely end up asking eachother out at the same time. girls usually can tell when a guy has been staring at them so if she catches you looking, look her in the eyes, hold her gaze a few seconds and look away.
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Vincent1
Dec 13, 2007
Hey dudes I have the same problem, except there's a catch: she used to like me about a year ago; but now I like her and I'm unsure about how she feels and I'm extremely shy. PLEASE HELP ME!!!
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Vincent1
Dec 13, 2007
Hey dudes I have the same problem, except there's a catch: she used to like me about a year ago; but now I like her and I'm unsure about how she feels and I'm extremely shy. PLEASE HELP ME!!!
