How to Ask a Friend on a Date - For Her

Go ahead. Ask. It's OK, what's the worst thing that could happen - you learn how he really feels?

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Telephones
• Breath Fresheners
• Perfume
• Concert Tickets
• Dinner Reservations

1. Make the first move - men have traditionally borne the burden of asking women out. No more.

2. Do something you enjoy together. Since you're already friends, you have an idea of what interests him. Find an event that you know he'll enjoy.

3. Make it happen. Some women can just ask for what they want; others tend to be more shy or uncomfortable about that. If you're too shy to ask him in person, call him or e-mail him.

4. Tell him you saw such-and-such was happening on a particular day and you thought you'd like to go. Would he like to go with you? The trick is to sound like you're going to go anyway. This takes the pressure off of both of you to make it formal.

5. Take a chance - one of the biggest fears for many people is "ruining the relationship." Get over it. If he says no, do you really believe he won't be your friend anymore? You'll most likely flatter him. Avoid the awkwardness by being casual about it. Leave him a way to say no without making either of you feel bad.

6. Don't beat yourself up about how stupid you were if he does say no. You've accomplished something here: He knows you like him. Now leave the ball in his court. If he makes a counteroffer, you're in!

7. If he backs off and acts awkward, give him time to get over it, and resume your friendship when he is ready.

8. Don't, under any circumstances, ask him out more than twice. If you've ever been on the receiving end of a crush, you understand how uncomfortable this can be.

Tips & Warnings

• Think about why you are such good friends. If you have romantic feelings for him, it's best to figure out if there is a chance for the two of you as a couple, as opposed to standing by as he asks out your best friend.
• This could hurt your friendship, but being honest with yourself and your friend is worth the risk.

[Vincent1]

on 12/19/2007 Ask Him Out! I'm a guy its really stressful for us to have to make the first move! Like John said we are huge cowards when it comes to this kind of stuff we get way stressed out. Just talk to him and casually ask him out. Even if he says no he will still be your friend, well most guys would we're cool like that. Also if you tell him how you feel there will be a great weight will be lifted and he'll be extremely flattered.

[chaotictruth]

on 1/16/2007 Take a minute to think about it. Would you rather continue with the hope that he may possibly like you and just be too shy to tell you or would you rather know the truth that he only thinks of you as a friend? I told my guy friend that I liked him today, and now I may be a tab bit bitter, but he didn't feel the same way and now I'm the fool who knows the unalterable truth. So it all comes down to maintaining a hopeful illusion or knowing a potentially hurtful truth. I guess which you choose depends on your beliefs and attitude. Good luck.

on 8/8/2006 I know that if you're shy, like me, just have a friend that knows him to ask him for you. If he says no, it's not so bad because your friend can just say something like, "Forget I ever mentioned it" (and laugh) and things will eventually return back to normal.

on 6/30/2006 Never ask him out on a date through a poem or a love letter. He might not want to answer you back and will probably avoid you. Ask him straight in his face, so he has to answer you right then.

on 6/30/2006 Just relax and ask him! Have some confidence! But ask him yourself, if you really like him. If you like someone, just gather up your courage and ask him! Try to read how he acts around you. If you catch him looking at you all the time, that probably means he likes you! Either that or you have a piece of lettuce stuck in your teeth. Just do it! Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game!