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How to Know When It's Over

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Relationships can start off blissful at first and slowly transition into a nightmare. Sometimes, love can blind us and make us keep us in a bad relationship. Here are a few steps to help you realize if it's time to call it quits?

Difficulty: Moderate
Instructions
  1. Step 1

    Be realistic. If you're being abused, hurt, cheated on or lied to, it's time to cut your losses and get out.

  2. Step 2

    Think about the future you're creating. If your partner is jealous, obsessive, possessive or overly emotional, consider the extra burden you are carrying in dealing with those behaviors.

  3. Step 3

    Is he a shameless flirt? Is she bossy? demanding? insecure? These are more signs of a rocky road ahead.

  4. Step 4

    Do you truly enjoy each other's company, or do you find yourself relieved whenever you part company? If the latter, it doesn't bode well.

  5. Step 5

    Evaluate your role in maintaining the relationship. If you feel as if you're doing all the work, it's time to talk or walk.

  6. Step 6

    Does he promise to call and then forget? Is she terminally late? Be honest with yourself. Is this what you want?

  7. Step 7

    Do you feel accepted and appreciated? If not, move on.

Tips & Warnings
  • Make sure you want to end the relationship because the person is wrong for you and not because you fear commitment. You don't want to send Prince Charming packing just because you have commitment jitters.

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kiratrever said

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on 11/1/2008 Ugh, it's never easy. But you make a lot of sense.

scottl said

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on 10/21/2008 The 7 steps mentioned above are what I have been searching for months for. I needed answer now I have them, beautifully written

rina868 said

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on 9/13/2008 hi heartofstone... we can always leave, lose & 4get a boyfriend by any circumstance but never it was for a family to 4get a son or a daughter. think of d story of d prodigal son... after all... he came back to repent & his father accepted him:) it is always d best thing 2 decide what would b better 4 u.

rina868 said

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on 9/13/2008 hi stuzzyg, just 4 my opinion... ur gf might have a deeper reasons why she left u. it's true that there r some thing that much better left unsaid... whatever it is just try to respect her decision coz if she really loves u she will definitely find her way back 2 u. as u said she already had 3 kids from her past relationships, the mere fact that u still lived with her despite that means a lot but seems she really wanted to go so let her be... besides u were not married. both of u needs to move on just try to understand her decision and her health condition maybe she just don't want to cause any harm on u part.

bitterends said

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on 8/13/2008 heartofstone i relate to you soooo much. me and my ex or whatever he is i have no idea agrea we love each other and dont want to brake up, but cant continue the way we are. i thought calling it quits was the right way to go, but neather of us is ready to let go. its never easy enough. we both dont have kids and have our whole lives infront of us.

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