How to Know When It's Over

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Relationships can start off blissful at first and slowly transition into a nightmare. Sometimes, love can blind us and make us keep us in a bad relationship. Here are a few steps to help you realize if it's time to call it quits?

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

Step1
Be realistic. If you're being abused, hurt, cheated on or lied to, it's time to cut your losses and get out.
Step2
Think about the future you're creating. If your partner is jealous, obsessive, possessive or overly emotional, consider the extra burden you are carrying in dealing with those behaviors.
Step3
Is he a shameless flirt? Is she bossy? demanding? insecure? These are more signs of a rocky road ahead.
Step4
Do you truly enjoy each other's company, or do you find yourself relieved whenever you part company? If the latter, it doesn't bode well.
Step5
Evaluate your role in maintaining the relationship. If you feel as if you're doing all the work, it's time to talk or walk.
Step6
Does he promise to call and then forget? Is she terminally late? Be honest with yourself. Is this what you want?
Step7
Do you feel accepted and appreciated? If not, move on.

Tips & Warnings

  • Make sure you want to end the relationship because the person is wrong for you and not because you fear commitment. You don't want to send Prince Charming packing just because you have commitment jitters.

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bitterends

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on 8/13/2008 heartofstone i relate to you soooo much. me and my ex or whatever he is i have no idea agrea we love each other and dont want to brake up, but cant continue the way we are. i thought calling it quits was the right way to go, but neather of us is ready to let go. its never easy enough. we both dont have kids and have our whole lives infront of us.

stuzzyg

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on 7/8/2008 Could someone please offer their ideas and opinions on this one.
Im 29 Years old and have been dating a girl who is 23 for the best part of 2 years.
I lived in Ireland and my girlfriend in England, we had a long distance relationship up until April this year were I decided that it was right for me to move over, get a job and live with my partner.
My girlfriend has a child of 3 from another relationship. We had been living together for only 12 weeks and just last week she broke ties and headed back to live with her mother.
My girlfriend has bad epilepsy and things were hard for the past 3 months.
She decided to pack up and leave after us getting an appartment and fully furnishing the whole place.
Her reasons are breaking me down badly. She felt that since I moved to Liverpool I have been unhappy and this made her unhappy, she said that because of this she was full of guilt which got

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on 6/28/2008 I live with my boyfriend and we still love each other so much. It has finally come to the point where we are just tired of arguing with each other. We both realize that we don't get along and probably never will. Yet neither one of us is totally prepared to call it quits and move on. We're both 21 we don't have any kids, and we have our whole lives ahead of us you'd think it would be easy enough. I left home 3 times already I know I should bury my pride but I feel embarrassed to have to go back.

cfw123

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on 6/12/2008 I've been married 15 years, but my constantly talking wife is driving me crazy -- I can't do anything without constant interruptios. I'm an engineer and need quiet time to concentrate on whatever I'm trying to do -- I need to focus on the problem at hand, but can't do it. I know I could find compatable women for good companionship (we have no minor children, and are too old for new ones) but it's really hard to force a divorce. Yet unless or until I do I have nothing to offer anyone else. What should I do? I'm not one to cheat on my wife while still married, but I'm really despirate -- this whole thing is driving me crazy (not psychologically fortunately).

Stefinne

Stefinne said

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on 12/16/2007 The Break Up-Leting go of some one you loved for so long and accepting that its over is hard, especially if you have children together.Im finding out the hard way.My ex boyfriend is sleeping with other women, even though its over i feel that its not right and he doesn't respect me any more.We are still Living together.I try to get along with him for the sake of the kids.and accasionally we get along.I fear that if I dont leave before him things will only get worse for myself.I have tolerated alot of his mental and emotional abuse, it has affected my self estem.But he hasnt taken my soul.Im hanging in there.He tells me that hes leaving when the lease is up on the house,So Until he leaves me I can get on with my life...How can I make things abit easier for myself?

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