How to Handle Romantic Rejection

Your sweetheart just told you, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you." What now?

Difficulty: Moderately challenging

Instructions

1. Yeah, it hurts to hear it. The truth is, you'll get over it.

2. Realize that this person, no matter how much you like him or her, is not going to reciprocate. You can't make a person love you. And you can drive yourself crazy trying.

3. You deserve a partner who respects you and cares about you. You want to feel secure and valuable, right? Remember this.

4. At first, you'll experience denial. "It's not really over," you tell yourself. Now tell yourself that it's not your fault. You could have been this or that - but you weren't. Don't dwell on your imagined shortcomings.

5. Don't try to get him or her back by making drastic improvements. It won't work. It's too late for that. If you do anything, do it for yourself. Now is the time to be selfish.

6. Go to your friends or family - those who accept you and will understand your hurt.

7. Take up a hobby or sport. Get your mind off your breakup. Stay busy - this is key.

8. You will get depressed. It's normal. You will get angry; this is normal too.

9. Decide that you wanted it to be over. Convince yourself of this.

10. You might try finding someone else - and some people will suggest this - but it's not very healthy and won't really be fair to the new person. Give yourself time to pull yourself together.

11. Don't get obsessive. If you feel that you can't get over it by yourself, get professional help. You don't want to turn into a stalker.

[elinauk]

on 6/4/2009 When someone rejects you, don't feel embarrassed or so and make yourself strong enough that you will never fall again, you will definitely come over with the situation.

[gougouro]

on 6/1/2009 It does hurt, and you will be jumping from a stage to other emotionlybest advice : be a Selfish personMy X asked me for a favor , she was expecting that i will help her as usual..My answer to her was: Go to hell

[mariha]

on 10/21/2008 Cutting all ties and loving yourself might seem like the healthy thing to do...but as a female we can be emotion creatures and that will make the situation worst. I think we have to learn how to be friends after we are rejected in any form. No one can resist a genuine friendship by someone who cares for them. What you do have to let go of is the self wanting of an intimate/sexual relationship. Sometimes a friendship will get you closer that sex. No one will reject your friendship unless you did something to make them really hate you.

[sheila828342]

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[frdz]

on 9/11/2008 SYR1234: I appreciate what you say about getting over a hurt, because its easy for people to say it will past. When you're the one that feel the hurt its not easy at all because it like trying to make someone to care for you . I hurt someone and I ask for his forgiveness and I apologizes over and over again and I thought we were okay but I know now what I felt he didn't and really that is not his fault because he never said he wanted to date me. I'm hurt because I feel I will never find someone to care or love me. i know as time goes on I will see him for who he is and then I can thank God it happen this way, but for now I miss him.
frdz!