By
eHow Relationships & Family Editor
Difficulty: Moderately challenging
Step1
Yeah, it hurts to hear it. The truth is, you'll get over it.
Step2
Realize that this person, no matter how much you like him or her, is not going to reciprocate. You can't make a person love you. And you can drive yourself crazy trying.
Step3
You deserve a partner who respects you and cares about you. You want to feel secure and valuable, right? Remember this.
Step4
At first, you'll experience denial. "It's not really over," you tell yourself. Now tell yourself that it's not your fault. You could have been this or that - but you weren't. Don't dwell on your imagined shortcomings.
Step5
Don't try to get him or her back by making drastic improvements. It won't work. It's too late for that. If you do anything, do it for yourself. Now is the time to be selfish.
Step6
Go to your friends or family - those who accept you and will understand your hurt.
Step7
Take up a hobby or sport. Get your mind off your breakup. Stay busy - this is key.
Step8
You will get depressed. It's normal. You will get angry; this is normal too.
Step9
Decide that you wanted it to be over. Convince yourself of this.
Step10
You might try finding someone else - and some people will suggest this - but it's not very healthy and won't really be fair to the new person. Give yourself time to pull yourself together.
Step11
Don't get obsessive. If you feel that you can't get over it by yourself, get professional help. You don't want to turn into a stalker.
Comments
18sweety said
on 5/5/2008 People keep suggesting "love yourself" etc . Can you explain? How does one do this? What are some examples of things I can do?
18sweety said
on 5/5/2008 Great website for further love tranlsations: Manslations.com - check it out! (Probably more for women - but Jeff provides some great insight!!)
18sweety said
on 5/5/2008 almostdead - I read that and smiled - because it's nice to know that there are other people just like me out there!! I read your comment and felt like it could have been me writing that. (Minus the suicidal part) - It's just so ridiculous... However, I'm not going to let this last breakup get me down! I'm starting to realize that it's all in the positive attitude - try to stay "up" and you will be "up." Let yourself get down, and you will spiral down. In the end, I always say to myself that everything happens for a reason. If it wasn't meant to be - maybe it's good that it's finally over - so we'll both have a chance to find what we're looking for. I always also keep in mind that it's human nature to never be happy with what you have. All those "happy" couples that you mentioned that you notice aren't always happy. Even if you're rich, and with a wonderful person - there's sti
maninblack said
on 1/10/2008 i just posted a comment and i cannot find it. how does one find one's own comment? maybe i am losing it due to the hurt i am going through. that bitch !!
maninblack said
on 1/10/2008 I got dumped and it hurts. I see many here that bear that same hurt and I feel a little better that I am in company of people who understand. It hurts really bad. She dumped me for no apparent reason. She just said she felt uncomfortable since she was my colleague but in an office overseas. We had a great time while it lasted for 6 months. Usually it is me who dumps or breaks off with the girl. Now I know how it feels to be on the receiving end. I know I would have broken off wiht this one as well but she did it before me and hence I have such a hard time getting over this. I know it's my ego but I feel really bad. Like "almostdead" said, sharing may make the hurt a little less. Please someone write to me. Be my friend.