How to Enjoy and Desire Sex Again After Having a Baby

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Step 1

Learn to except your body and to appreciate it due to the beautiful child you have. Loving your body after childbirth can be extremely difficult, but in order for you to move beyond the insecurities and enjoy sex again, you need to appreciate why your body has changed so dramatically. Understand that you just had a remarkable and beautiful baby and because you were given this gift, your body will never be the same. Feel sexy with what you have. Chances are you can find something attractive about yourself including bigger breasts, more voluptuous hips, shinier hair, or a more perfect complexion. Having a baby can make certain things about your body even better, but you have to look at yourself in a new way to appreciate your beauty. Once you've found a way to feel sexy when looking at yourself, your desire for sex will come back and you'll begin to enjoy sex again with your partner. Remind your partner as well that you're not feeling as sexy as you'd like. Chances are, he'll remind you of just how sexy you are and you'll feel good about yourself again.
Step 2

Find time to spend alone with your partner in order to enjoy sex again. Having sex after childbirth can be tricky when you have a new baby crying for your attention much of the time. Make time for your partner when you can. Spend an hour together when the baby is sleeping. Take time out for a romantic date once a week. Yes, this means getting a sitter, and it will be hard to be away from the baby when he is so little, but it is important for your relationship to do so. Tending to your partner is just as essential as caring for a new baby. Your relationship needs attention as well and without that time alone together, you could end up having some issues. Try to relieve yourself of your motherly duties, even if only for an hour. Be the person you were before you got pregnant and try to remember what it was like to desire sex with your man. Feeling yourself again will help you to enjoy sex after having a baby and keep your relationship strong.
Step 3

Relax during intimate moments with your partner. Enjoying sex after having a baby means relaxing enough to be involved in the sex. If you are constantly worrying about what the baby is doing, if he is sleeping, if he is breathing,...etc., you are not going to enjoy sex with your partner, nor will you even desire sex. It's important to put all thoughts aside when you are with your partner. Enjoy him and the time you are spending together. Give into the intimacy and stop worrying about the baby and what might happen, what can happen, or what will happen if you have sex with your partner. As long as you've made sure that the baby is safe and comfortable, this means he's been fed, changed, and is sleeping, you're just fine and free to enjoy sex with your partner. The more tense you are during intimacy, or before, the less you will be able to enjoy sex or desire sex with your partner. This time is important for you too. You deserve to have an intimate relationship with your partner, so enjoy yourself and love one another.
Step 4

Buy sexy outfits that make you feel desirable. Since your body has probably changed after having a baby, you'll want to find intimate apparel that helps you to feel sexy. Purchase things that hide what you do not like about yourself and accentuate what you like. Black or dark apparel is very slimming, however, light pinks and whites can help you to feel sexy too. Enlist the help of your partner in picking out lingerie that makes you look sexy. If you notice your partner looking at you in a desirable way, you'll be more apt to desire him back and enjoy sex with him again. Confirmation that you are indeed still sexy to your partner will encourage you to want to have sex with him as before. Sometimes, all we need is a little confidence booster to feel like ourselves again or to feel like a whole new woman (which is a good thing as well). Find lingerie or even sexy pajamas that make you feel desirable and want to have sex again. Enjoying sex with your partner is very important for you to want to keep having sex and to keep that intimacy in your relationship. However, you must feel good about yourself first.
Step 5

Remember why you were first attracted to your partner. Sometimes, having a baby can create more of a friendship between couples and take their desire for sex away. This is because they have both been put into new roles of mother and father, rather than lovers. While it's wonderful to see your partner as a devoted and great father, it is equally important to see him as a sexy husband and lover. Try to keep in mind that this man is someone you are attracted to and so much more than just a father to your child. When we take on new roles of mother and father, it can become easy to desire sex less from each other. Instead of seeing your partner as a parent, view him as your lover and remember those feelings of passion that you shared before the baby. Desiring sex with your partner will be easy when you see him once again as your husband rather than a parent. Try to separate the two roles so that you can enjoy sex with your partner and desire him as before. Seeing your partner as a sexy lover will help you to once again desire him and enjoy sex with him.

How to Enjoy and Desire Sex Again After Having a Baby

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