Things You'll Need:
- Teddy bear or other favorite item
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Step 1
Explain to your child in simple terms why the operation is necessary. Avoid using complicated terminology that will confuse her because that kind of talk could frighten her more. Instead, be gentle with your approach, but make sure she understands what is being operated on, and why it is important.
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Step 2
Be honest with your child about will happen during the operation. Many kids will ask questions about this, and avoiding the topic can make matters worse for the child's anxiety level. Again, this should be done in undertones. For instance, if she is having her tonsils removed, you might say that the doctor will have her sleeping, so she will not feel a thing and then gently remove the tonsils with scissors. Depending on the child's age, there is no need to go through graphic scenarios that will cause high tension.
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Step 3
Tell your child how she will feel when she comes out of surgery. Let her know that it is normal to feel sleepy after an operation, and that rest is good. It will help her heal faster. Also explain that she may feel some discomfort, but it will not last very long, maybe a few days to a week or two. (at least in the case of a simple operation).
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Step 4
Reassure the child that she is in good hands with the doctors and nurses. They will be watching out for her the entire time, and treating her very well. Many doctors will talk with children before they go in for an operation, but if this is overlooked, perhaps it would be a good idea to contact the surgeon and have him talk with your child, too.
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Step 5
Find a children's book about the type of operation your child will be having, if one is available, and read it together. There are books for many types of common childhood surgeries. If you cannot find a specific book, a general book about operations will do. There are some book suggestions listed below in the Resources section.
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Step 6
Bring along objects of affection, such as a teddy bear and favorite blanket. These will help make the child feel safe and secure in the hospital. Also remind your child that you will be there when she wakes up, and will be waiting with a big hug.
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Step 7
Buy your child a little surprise to make her happy after the surgery. This can be something she has been hoping for, and just some little trinket or toy to let her know that you are proud of her being brave.
