How to Approach Random Women

This is easily one of the most common scenarios guys ask for expert dating help on,"There's this woman I always see at [insert place such as the coffee shop, the gym, the cafeteria], but every time I want to say 'Hi.' I just freeze up."

Lets start by working together to avoid the most common and ugly mistake -- DO NOT go up to the woman and say anything even remotely close to,"You know - I've been seeing you around for months and just wanted to come up to you and say 'Hi' - you're so beautiful!" The issues with this "approach":
1. At best she is going to respond with a,"Awwww, I'm so flattered thank you!"
2. In a worst case scenario she's going to respond with an awkward,"What? Huh? You've been watching me for months? You're stalking me?"
3. You just put this random woman you know nothing about on a pedestal, and in a power position; like its some sort of privilege and gift to be a able to observe this woman's beauty from afar! If you ever START a relationship with a woman in the power position before she has offered kindness and love - GAME OVER. She's done nothing but stand and look pretty and already you're drooling over her and ready to hand over the bank account numbers and keys to the house, what incentive is there for her to do nice things for you and treat you well? You want a relationship like that?

So the next natural question is,"Ok then, so what do I do?" First thing to do is to understand your end game -- what do you think your end game is? Your end game is NOT to have her acknowledge your existence. Your end game is at least one of two things -- a one-night stand, or have a long term relationship with her where you both make each other happy. There is no other end game -- is your goal really just to take her to a movie? Is it really to buy her a fancy dinner? If you just take her to a movie, or a fancy dinner you're telling me you're going to be happy? NO! If it is - stop reading now! Beta males and sissy boys be gone!!!

Given your end game is to have a one-night stand or have a mutually HAPPY long term relationship with any women you choose to seduce you need to understand that your INITIAL APPROACH will set the foundation for the relationship. That's why its imperative for your long term happiness not to put a woman you know nothing about on a pedestal and in the power position of the relationship.

So lets get into specifics about what you SHOULD do - this example is tailored to someone you see regularly at [insert place such as the coffee shop, the gym, the cafeteria] -- so lets say every day at 10a you run into this woman at the coffee shop, but you've never said a word to each other. What do you do? Watch and learn son ...

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• A positive attitude
• Clean clothes
• Gum (for fresh breath)

1. Rapidly achieve comfort. How do you this? The key is preparation, preparation, preparation my friend. Think about your dream woman, tell me what is she like in detail ... ok, now wipe the drool from your face and tell me something else ... what is your dream woman's dream man like? Oooo ouch, not quite you? Well, your dream woman's dream man is exactly what you need to model yourself after. How does he dress? How does he act? How does he talk? How does he walk? Be the dream man and most of your work is done!

2. Initiate playful and reciprocal banter. An awkward "Hi" or "Oh you're so beautiful!" will only make a random woman uncomfortable, and she won't respect you as a person much less a sexual being. With a confident smile I recommend projecting your voice and then stepping directly into a KOKOLOGY scenario (just Google it dude). Kokology scenarios are playful and fun games which not only break the ice, they tell you a lot about the woman you're trying to attract.

3. Leave her wanting more. Midway through your conversation you should make sure to let her know,"Hey, I have to get back to work - I just stepped out for a few minutes. Give me your number and we'll talk some more later." Do not leave immediately after this, keep chatting for a few, but then move on. So why bring this up midway through the conversation instead of at the end? Because usually "the end" is an awkward pause, ask for a number after an awkward pause and its already too late - she's bored and done with you. Ask for a number while she's having FUN and you're done!!!

Tips & Warnings

• Once you get comfortable with it approaching random women can become ADDICTING.

Resources

• Learn how to attract the opposite sex with expert dating help

[timmoghul]

on 9/27/2009 On a side note, I did write an article on another website which goes into specific detail about how someone can attract their dream match:

http://www.expertdatinghelp.com/Attraction/how-to-attract-your-dream-match.html

[timmoghul]

on 9/27/2009 Its really not THAT difficult. If a guy's dream woman is a svelte blond with model looks, its unlikely that her dream man is going to be lazy couch potato who is unemployed, eats chips and dip, watches TV, and plays on the computer all day. One of the main points of the article is to get people to start thinking from the other person's perspective -- everyone spends a ton of time thinking about what THEY want in a significant other, but how much time do those people spend thinking about what a potential significant other would want and be attracted to?

[robinincarolina]

on 9/27/2009 Men really do need to learn a little bit more

[akumaxkami]

on 9/26/2009 Hmmm, but how would a man figure out what his dream woman's dream man is?