Things You'll Need:
- Plenty of time
- A patient partner
- Peppermint lube
- Small silicone dildo or vibrator
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Step 1
This article is geared toward the one receiving the **** or vibrator in anal sex. The first step, however, is going to be a solo one. When your lover is not even around, so as not to confuse things with arousal, become comfortable with your butt. Masturbate, do what feels good, and experiment with the feelings you get when you put a finger in your anus.
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Step 2
Practice butt-play with your partner. A good prelude to anal sex is playing with lube and fingers in the anus. When very aroused, ask your partner to insert one fingertip into your rectum. Lube is a good idea here. Maybe all you will be comfortable with at this point is having your partner touch and play with your perineum, the area between genitals and anus, and the sensitive skin around your opening. Build up trust as you practice this step over the course of about a week. Add fantasy and anticipation by talking about how good it will feel when you finally have that cock in your ass.
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Step 3
Back on your own, put a condom on a small vibrator or dildo. There are special models designed to prepare the rectum for anal sex. Ask about them in your favorite sex toy shoppe. Choose a model with a small tip that grows in diameter and then tapers, with a flared base so that it does not go too far inside when used, and so the muscles of your rectum will stretch gradually with use.
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Step 4
Rub a dime-sized dose of peppermint lube on and inside your ****. This step is the one that really separated the successful try from all the unsuccessful ones before it. The lube tingles and numbs slightly, completely doing away with the pain that had kept me fearful before. Allow the lube to work for a few minutes while you stimulate yourself.
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Step 5
Now practice slipping the dildo inside. For me, the best position for entry was lying on my back with my knees bent and my feet directly under my hips, pushing my hips up in the air. I reached underneath my butt and came around with the vibrator angled slightly. This was different from what I expected to try, but this position allowed me the angle of penetration that followed my anatomy best. Because you are completely in control and have lots of lube and some numbing, there is no fear of pain. When I did this for the first time, I was able to take the dildo all the way in without pain.
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Step 6
Tell your partner what worked for you, and then make sure he is willing to be very patient and let you have complete control. Apply a condom and peppermint lube. Lying on your side with him behind, guide his **** with your hand so that the entry is happening at a good angle. Use pillows to prop things up to better the angle. Make sure he is good and hard, and then guide the **** inside yourself. He should do no thrusting at this point, and should wait for your cues.
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Step 7
Try different positions if that one is not working. Kneeling with your face pressed into the bed and your ass in the air is another good one. If you are able to get the **** inside, great! If not, you can try again later. The sensations of the **** trying to get past that sphincter are amazing on their own. Bearing down as the head of the **** is right at that ring of fire is helpful, but just relaxing and taking it as it feels good is the most important part. Soon you will be feeling the amazing sensation of being filled as never before! Anal sex success! If you are a woman, experiment with fingers or a dildo (but a different one from your anal play. Don't mix anal/vaginal play). in your vagina as well.
