How to Help Preschoolers and Parents Deal With Separation Anxiety

In my experience as a Montessori preschool teacher I've found that both preschoolers and their parents can experience separation anxiety that first day (or week) of school. Sometimes it's easier for the child to deal with this issue -- Mom or Dad may take a little more time! It seems like only yesterday you were bringing your little one home from the hospital ~ now they are growing up and heading off to preschool to make friends and learn many new things about the wonderful world around us. Here's a few surefire ways to make that first day easier for both child and parent.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• drawing paper and markers or crayons to make a Love Note

1. Talk with your child. Talk ahead of time with your preschooler about going to school that first day. Keep it all very matter-of-fact and positive. Say things like, "You're going to have a great time. You'll be making friends and playing with play dough and blocks and painting pictures" and "Yes, I will be leaving you at preschool for the morning but will be there just as soon as school is over. You're going to have so much fun."

2. Attend the preschool's Open House. Most preschool programs have a "Meet the Teacher" night before school actually starts so your child can get acquainted with his teacher. This is a good opportunity for your child to spend a little time in the classroom playing and spend some time with the teacher. This will help both parents and child feel more comfortable.

3. Write a Love Note. Before preschool begins make a love note for your child and have your child make a love note for you, too. Write a simple "I love you" with hearts, etc., This love note will go with your child to preschool in his pocket or backpack ~ and you'll keep your love note close to you, too. If you or your child really start missing each other then the love note is there to offer comfort, if needed.

4. Get an early start. Allow extra time on that first day, and don't rush around and stress out. Create a calm morning for your child by allowing plenty of time. Be cheerful and matter-of-fact.

5. Keep it brief. This is key! Walk your child into class and help them find their cubby, etc., but then hug them goodbye as soon as possible and LEAVE! Yes, your child may cry that first day but trust that your child's teacher will call you if there are any problems. It's important to stay positive. Say, "I will pick you up just as soon as class is over. I know you're going to have a really fun time."

Tips & Warnings

• If your child starts to cry and cling to you then ask the teacher or teacher's assistant for help. They can usually distract your child with a classroom pet or by involving your child in a fun activity.
• Don't sneak off. Always hug your child goodbye and reassure them you will return when preschool is over. Separation anxiety is usually only temporary. Before long your child will run through that classroom door ~ happy and excited to be at school.

[goodselfme]

on 3/3/2010 Good tips to deal with separation anxiety with preschoolers, parents and teachers too. These help everyone.5*