How to Make Up With a Girlfriend
You and your girlfriend broke up, and now you want her back. This is usually a really stressful time. The reality is that you and your girlfriend are two different people with two different sets of experiences and backgrounds. Challenges are naturally bound to arise and are not necessarily what causes breakups. The way that you two choose to deal with the challenges will be what makes the difference between a successful and an unsuccessful relationship.
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Assess why you want her back. Do you really love her, or do you just not like being alone? If the former, write down all the reasons why you want her back.
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Take time to think about what went wrong. There may be needs that are not being met, both ways. Write down what you understand to be her needs and ways in which you may be able to meet them.
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Ask her for a time to speak in person. If she is not ready yet, let her know that you understand and are open to talking when she is ready. Ask her when she thinks she might be ready.
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Give her flowers. This will soften her heart and break the ice to make the conversation easier.
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Admit that you were wrong, if you feel that you were wrong. Be specific about what you did and how you realize that might have made her feel. Be honest and sincere.
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Accept her reaction. If she decides to unload how she feels and how much she is hurt by your actions, allow her to do so without being defensive, impatient or annoyed. Look her in the eyes while she is talking to you. This is not the time for rebuttal. Listen.
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Ask her exactly what she would like you to do differently. Sometimes people wrongly assume that others know what we want. Don't guess. Ask.
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Tips & Warnings
Make up with your girlfriend in a relaxed setting, like a quiet home or park, as opposed to a restaurant or bar.
If you apologize just to get her back, and you are not sincere, she will likely sense your insincerity, which will only make the situation worse. If you are not sorry for what you did, or you did nothing wrong, then consider whether the relationship is worth salvaging.
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