How to Explain Where Babies Come From to Your Child
All children will eventually ask their parents or another trusted adult, "Where do babies come from?" There are lots of ways to address the issue, depending on the age of the child. Here's how to answer the inevitable question.
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Talk to your children as soon as they bring up the topic, if you have the time to discuss the issue. If the timing or setting is inappropriate, tell them when you'll be able to talk to them about it, and stick to your promise.
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Tell them what they want to know, without telling them too much - when they've absorbed the simple facts, then you can move on to the more complex issues.
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Take them seriously. Don't laugh at them or make them feel silly for asking.
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Use correct terms. If your preschooler wants to know where babies grow, teach him or her the term "uterus." If your young child wants to know how the baby gets inside the mommy, explain the terms "sperm" and "egg," as well as "****" and "vagina" if necessary, in the simplest way possible.
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Explain the concept of privacy. Many children will ask, "Can I watch?" when you explain the process of sexual intercourse to them; let them know this is something that mommies and daddies do in private when they love each other very much.
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Discuss the amount of time it takes for a baby to grow. This is especially important if you're trying to prepare a child for the arrival of a sibling.
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Be as brief and straightforward as possible - if your little talk turns into a lecture, your kids may lose interest and stop listening.
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Repeat yourself if necessary to be sure they understand what you're telling them.
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Tips & Warnings
There are many good books that can help you decide how to discuss sexuality and reproduction with your children, so don't feel like you have to muddle through it alone.
Children often understand pictures more clearly than words, so you may want to draw or show them a picture of a baby growing inside a mommy as part of your discussion.
Don't treat sex and reproduction as something dirty or shameful - let your children know that it's a positive, miraculous thing but that it's for grown-ups only.
If your children have somehow picked up incorrect or inappropriate information about sexuality or reproduction, set them straight as soon as possible and find out where they got their misinformation from.
