How to Go About Dealing with the Silent Treatment
How do you go about dealing with the silent treatment? This is what many people are wondering when their wife or husband gives them the 'cold shoulder.' In fact, I myself have gone through this with my own spouse, so I know the pain it can cause. But by following the steps below you will become stronger with how to deal with this immature act.
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Ignore them back. Out of all the tips in this article this suggestion is the best way on how to respond to the silent treatment. Why? Well, it gives your spouse a taste of their own medicine. And, if they love you, at some point they will talk to you because they're 1) tired of arguing, 2) they miss your company.
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Stay happy. Subconsciously, the givers of the silent treatment WANT to see you upset. So, try your best to stay out of their way and be happy. For example, when they start giving you the cold shoulder respond by going to the movies with friends. Do something that's fun until your spouse comes around.
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Sleep in the guest bedroom. Some spouses might try to heal the silent treatment through sexual activity. This is not recommended for two reasons: 1) it doesn't resolve what caused the silent treatment in the first place and 2) it may not work, making you feel even lower about yourself. So, if you have a separate bedroom in your house, go on and sleep there until your spouse learns you're not going to tolerate their immaturity.
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Let them do their own chores. This is a controversial suggestion, especially if you're a housewife or a house husband. But if the person is not appreciating you, why bother to iron their clothing or fix their dinner? Instead do what you need to for yourself and your kids... leave your spouse's chores alone until they wake up and realize that the silent treatment is wrong.
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Tips & Warnings
The length of the silent treatment varies depending on how extreme the argument was and your spouse's personality. Some people do it for just a day while others can do it for weeks. Either way, stay strong.
If the silent treatment is too extensive, consider getting marriage counseling or (in very serious cases), contemplate divorce.
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These are horrible suggestions. It's not about who's right or wrong, it's about the relationship. You can either choose to be right or choose love. Communication is the only way to work on any relationship. Ignoring the other party will only impact the situation more negatively. Broaden your definition of truth. It's not that you're right or they're wrong...you may both be right and both be wrong at the same time. Choose love. Talk it out. Hug it out. If the relationship is worth saving, then do something positive about it.
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I agree, live your life if you know you have done your part to break the silence. those people who gives silent treatmen.
