How to Write Thoughtful Funeral Card Messages

If a friend or acquaintance or someone else close to you has lost someone, it is important to recognize that loss with a sympathy or funeral card. Even though it can be difficult to write cards of sympathy, it's important to show respect for the deceased person.

Instructions

1. *Choose and Purchase a Sympathy or Funeral Card

   If you wish, purchase a funeral card from the greeting card selection at a store or shop. However, keep in mind that many of these are written for people who are close to you. Finding a card for someone who is more of an acquaintance can be difficult. In these cases, choose a "thinking of you" or a blank card instead.

2. *Brainstorm Thoughtful Messages

   Before sitting down to complete your card, brainstorm message ideas first. Don't write directly in the card--instead, write a few "rough drafts" on other pieces of paper first. These messages can be tricky, so give yourself a little time to work out the important details.

   When thinking of ideas, remember that you should try to include a personal thought. Here are a few ideas you might use:

   I know how much [person's name] meant to you, so I'm sending this card with deepest sympathy.

   Please know that I'm thinking of you in this difficult time and I hope that you find peace in the days to come.

   We're thinking of you.

   [name] was one of the most amazing people I knew, so I know this loss was hard.

   Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

   We wish you well in this tough time; hang in there.

   Your [aunt] meant a great deal to a lot of people; she will be missed.

   Your [aunt] will remain in our thoughts forever.

3. *Complete your Funeral Card

   Finish your funeral card by delivering it in person or mailing it to the recipient's address. Do not send e-cards for funerals; this is an occasion when you should take the extra time to use snail mail.