How to Meet Young Men if You're a Cougar

Cougars, he's waiting for you.

It's easy to meet a man. You can find one at the office, at church or in line at the dry-cleaners. But you don't want just any man; you want a young guy, a dude, a stud. If you're a 40-something woman ready for a thrill and are jonesin' for a 20 something energized hottie to spice up your life, you're going to have to go about it in a different way. You can meet young men if you're a cougar--just be ready to pounce when you spot one.

Things You'll Need

• Confidence
• Flirtation
• Young Men

Instructions

1. 

   Take a cue first from the famous women that have had younger men: Demi, Halle, Eva, Cher, Stella (the one that got her groove back). They all have younger men in common, but they all have their looks in common-they're attractive, successful and have taken care of their bodies.

2. 

   Pretend you were ambushed and give yourself a makeover. What can you do to enhance the looks that and body you were given? Have you not had a hair cut since college? Are you still rockin' the feathered, frosted high lights of the 70s, the big teased 'do of the 80s or the Jennifer Aniston cut of the 90s? Work on your appearance by coming into the present with updated looks.

3. 

   Start working out and invest in creating a healthier body. Cougars are fit, sexy women that look like they care about their bodies and actually want to take care of them. Take the stairs more often to lift that tush. Park farther away from the store's entrance to work out those legs. Sneak in little exercises between trips to the gym to work on that cougar body of yours.

4. 

   Wear the right clothing-current clothing. If you need to surf through a few magazines to get ideas, go right ahead. Redbook and Glamour are two good ones. Be careful with Cosmo-you want to look sexy and fresh, not slutty and like you're trying too hard. A simple pair of dark bootcut jeans that hug your curves in just the right way and a cute top with a LITTLE bit of cleavage should do it. Think Old Navy, Gap, J. Crew...

5. 

   Believe that you really can snag a hot young thang. It's all mental here-you need to have the confidence within so that it exudes when you're talking to these cuties. Stand up straight, arch your back, keep your head up and make seductive eye contact. Send body language signals that you know you are worth having and they'll believe it too.

6. 

   Go where the guys are. Younger guys hang out at certain places and you need to start frequenting these places in order to increase your chances of meeting them. For instance, start shopping at Abercrombie & Fitch, American Eagle and Urban Outfitters-there's always a slew of hotties in there. What? They don't have to know that you're not in there to shop for your son or nephew. Go in there and act like it's no big deal, be cool and look around.

7. 

   Don't stop there. Going into these places where the young dudes will be is not good enough. You will at some point actually have to talk to them. Wait until the guy is alone and away from his friends-never approach the whole group or you will go from potential hot MILFy-cougar material to joke-of-the-day in no time flat. Remember, guys act way more immature when they're surrounded by their friends than they do when alone and one-on-one.

8. 

   Approach said hottie and ask him if you could have his help in choosing a shirt. Never ask a yes or no question or it could just end there, especially if he just turned 18 a minute ago and hasn't learned the fine art of dialogue. **NOTE TO SELF-do save yourself a trip to prison by making sure he is at least 18!!** Somehow work a compliment into the question/conversation. His gorgeous eye color, fit stomach, strong arms, etc...who doesn't love a compliment?! Bonus points if you can get him to blush; he's probably starting to feel you, too.

9. 

   Ask the bagger at the grocery store to help you to your car. Use the same techniques from the above step, but obviously change it to relate to the grocery store or food...Maybe mention that he looks like he definitely eats well and takes care of his body, perhaps. If you think you're going to get the green signal, go for the next step and mention that you'd like to hang out sometime. Again, remember he's a youngin' and it's not cool to use certain phases. "Would you like to go on a date with me?" is not the way to go about it. A simple, "Hey, we should hang out sometime, you seem pretty cool." or "We should get together sometime." Light and easy, current and cool is the way to make the initial connection.

10. 

    Research. Try to find out what younger guys are into these days so you will be able to carry on a conversation with them. You're not going to sound too hip if you ask them what video games they like to play on their Nintendo-that's sooooo out.

11. 

    Be an extrovert and talk more often. Make conversation while you're in line at the grocery store. Chat up the guy in your section at the record store (yes, records are "in" and cute young guys shop there). Speak to the dude next to you who is waiting for his Venti Mocha Latte at Starbucks. You will only meet said hottie if you are putting yourself out there.

12. 

    Don't forget the fine art of flirting. Do it well and do it often.

Tips & Warnings

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