Things You'll Need:
- Be Brave
- Be Strong
- Have lots of friend and family support
- Counseling if necessary
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Step 1
One thing is for sure, we have all been there. We have fell in love with someone, we have a little argument, we make up. But what if that argument goes to far?
What if that person starts taking advantage of your love? Here I am going to share with you a little lesson I was taught in life from those very situations.
In the beginning there are always warning signs. Please pay close attention. Sometimes signs can be so little that you over look them. Sometimes they can be so minor that you say to yourself, "Well, everyone has some problems."
This comment made to yourself is your first mistake. When you see a red flag, no matter how small that flag may be, think about how the situation makes you feel. Did you feel like it was something that you could handle for the long haul, or was it something that said run for cover?
Everyone of us has that little small voice in the back of our mind that says this person is not right for you. Listen to that voice, because nine times out of ten it is right. There are some people that are just toxic. -
Step 2
Next thing in this little lesson is that if your are already in deep in the relationship after you have had all the warning signs, you must know it is never to late to walk away. Be strong! Sometimes when you want to leave the other person may not want you to, or even let you.
If your loved one doesn't want you to end a relationship even after you said you feel you have had enough, that person has separation issues and may become violent!
I had a incident where a boyfriend would not take no for an answer, no matter how i painted the picture. Be aware that in a case like that some people become enraged and feel like you can not leave them because you're their property.
If you feel like you are in that kind of situation and you feel afraid for you life, TELL SOMEONE! Don't let it burn in your mind that this could be harmful to you and do nothing. The longer you put up with the drama the more the person is going to dish it out.
There is an old saying that goes, "A person will only do to you what you let them." As long as you let it seem you like being treated badly that is exactly what is going to happen.
When you are in a relationship and this person makes you feel like you are losing who you are as a person, please let them go. There is no person worth you losing your self identity! -
Step 3
Last but certainly not least, stand your ground. If you have broken up from this unhealthy relationship, let it go. Remember when a person shows signs that they can hurt or harm you, do not go back. I know that you want to believe the best in someone, but for your own safety and sanity do not return.
If you really do love this person and they love you, or so they say, suggest to them to go to relationship counseling with you. If they refuse, then it is a lost cause and you should move on.
Comments
nessakay said
on 8/6/2009 thanks a bunch!! :)
tnpos said
on 8/3/2009 Great tips for dealing with a unhealthy relationship! 5 and rec! P.E.A.C.E