How to Better The Communication In Your Relationship

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Better The Communication In Your Relationship

Communication is the key to a strong, healthy relationship. It allows partners to feel love and affection. Effective communication requires practicing the skills of listening and expressing thoughts and feelings. Communication is much more than talking, it's also about listening to what your partner needs and wants. In this article I explain how to better the communication in your relationship.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

A Spouse
Patience
Love

Step 1

LISTEN!!

Listening is the single most important communication skill. A good listener does more than just hear words. How do you get to be a good
listener? You need to PAY ATTENTION to your partners words and feelings. Hearing and paying attention are two different things!! Always remember that! Good listening sends a message to your partner, that you are important to me. Good listening shows you care about his or
her thoughts and feelings.

Listening without being defensive encourages an open and honest relationship. The less that you are defensive, the more your partner will open up to you. The more that your partner opens up to you, the better your relationship will be.
Step 2

UNDERSTANDING YOUR DIFFERENT COMMUNICATION STYLES.

If you would like better communication skills with your partner, it is important to understand that some people communicate differently than others. Some might be more expressive where as other might not really talk about his/her feelings and you would have to read body language. Remember, ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.

These opposite styles might attract each other initially, and over time have difficulties dealing with what's going on in the relationship as the relationship becomes more complicated. It is important to support each other in trying to understand your different communication styles and efforts to improve your connective ness. There are no secrets in a relationship. It takes practice, practice, practice!
Step 3

MAKE TIME FOR JUST YOU AND YOUR LOVER

Taking the time to talk is important. Your relationship should provide a safe place to share feelings, thoughts, fears, dreams and hopes. Making an effort to find sometime to talk to your partner alone can go a long way. During tough times people feel overwhelmed with worries and responsibilities. Especially now with the way the economy is, time together as a couple can be easily left out. Even when you are busy and
worried, plan time together WITHOUT INTERRUPTION! I know it's tough, especially when you have children, but is mandatory to keep the spark in your relationship! A few minutes spent just talking about your day can be a relief from stress. Be sure to save difficult or problem-solving discussions for times when you and your partner are not tired or
distracted. Please keep in mind that YOU may need to be the one who starts conversations. You will find many ways to open the door for communication if you are sensitive to your partner. Taking the time to listen keeps the lines of communication open.
Step 4

I hope that this article helps you out if you and your partner are going through a rough patch. I know that the way the times are now, it is especially difficult to connect with your partner. Hopefully this will open up new doors for you and your lover!