How to Deal with Silence and Pauses in Comunication

In this section, we are going to talk about difficult teens and pauses in communication. You see, everything needs to have a silence or a pause. If a sentence did not have a period at the end of it, then it would not be a sentence. In order to walk out of the room, you will need to walk through a door. The same thing goes for communication. Without the proper silences and pauses, we would not be able to fully communicate with one another. The space (moment of silence) that is in a conversation is there in order to help structure those non-verbal and verbal messages that we send one another. In communication, this moment of silence is known as a space, silence or pause.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

1. Silences and pauses are necessary to use when you are communicating both non-verbally and verbally with other individuals. Between those messages you give your teenager, there needs to be a buffer of time as well as a pause. Why? So that he or she can get that information and understand it.

2. If you fire rapid messages at your teenager without giving any pauses, then you will not be giving your teenager the chance to fully understand you. When it comes to a relationship, it can either go two ways. You can either bond or you can drift apart.

3. When you use silence and pauses in communication like the way it was intended, then you are going to grow with your teenager. However, if you are constantly sending messages to your teenager without giving any pause, then you will drift apart.

4. The next time you are giving directions to your teenager, you will need to stop, pause and let what you say sink into their mind before you continue forward. Wait quietly and patiently to watch them do what you told them to do. When you are explaining your thoughts or feelings to them, stop and see if they understand. As what they hear you saying. Wait silently for them to respond. Eighty five percent of the time, what the teenager heard was not your message. At this point, you need to restate what they didn’t understand.

[AngelGirl1024]

on 8/2/2009 Thank you. :-) I plan on writing more similar to this subject.
~Melanie

[Kandywriter]

on 7/30/2009 Good article. Good subject.