How to Stop a Friend from Putting You Down

A friend should be someone that you enjoy being around. A friend should be someone that you feel you can go to and talk to. A friend should be someone that comes to you and tells you their deepest secrets. When one of your friends begins to say hurtful comments that put you down, it's important that you take action right away, so that you can prevent this sort of thing from happening again.

Instructions

1. Say something to your friend immediately after they something that puts you down. Don't just let them say things and have it go in one ear and right out the other ear. You don't need to be rude about saying something to your friend. Even just a friendly comment like "Come on now, that wasn't very nice" would be sufficient. Whatever you feel comfortable saying is good.

2. Talk to your friend in a private setting. Sometimes when you talk with someone away from everyone else, a sense of seriousness comes with your conversation. You can feel free to try the first step, and then if that doesn't work, try having a private conversation.

3. Have a more serious conversation if the problem persists, and your friend continues to put you down. Consider saying something like "I have already asked you once to please stop putting me down, and saying such rude things. I will ask you again to please stop."

4. End your relationship with this person if they continue to put you down. A friend is not someone that should repeatedly put you down time and time again. If you have taken measures to try and stop the behavior, but it continues, take the final measure and end your friendship with the person.