How to Make More Friends in a New City

Moving to a new city can be stressful. While it can be frustrating to not know where the post office is located or how far away the nearest grocery store is, it is equally stressing to realize that you have left all your old friends behind. Here is how you can make new friends in your unfamiliar city and create networks of trust that will help you establish your new life.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Guts
• Courage
• Vulnerability

1. SAY HELLO TO YOUR NEIGHBORS. Many people do not even know what the name of their neighbors are, yet they see and pass by them every day. Introducing yourself to your neighbors will go a long way in getting yourself established in a new city. Although you may not become best chums, you will at least build up a relationship that is dependable. Perhaps you need someone to watch your cat while you're away? Neighbors can help each other out and look out for one another, which is crucial when you are in a new environment.

2. JOIN A SOCIAL GROUP OR CLUB. There are groups out there for practically every hobby, so if you have one, search for a group in your area. If you don't, now is the time to consider taking one up, even if its just to meet new people. Coming together with a common interest is a great way to break the ice with new friendships. Check your local library for group and club information or search on the internet.

3. JOIN A CHURCH. Churches are social hubs, and you will not walk away from one without saying hi to at least one person. Since their focus is relationships, it is generally easy to meet people through small group programs and Sunday school classes. Try and see if there is a group or a class tailored to your age group. Research the demographics before joining to help determine if its a right fit for you.

Tips & Warnings

• Always look for opportunities to say hi to the people around you. You never know when a friendship might spark up.
• Don't be afraid to open up to others. Once you have told them your story, they will likely tell you theirs as well.

[mrny]

on 8/14/2009 Very good advise on how to make new friends in a new city. Some of the steps may seem easy to do but definitely takes guts and courage to carry through with. Thanks!

[ccsteffen]

on 8/11/2009 Thanks for the tips on How to Make More Friends in a New City. My husband and I have lived here for four years and still don't have a decent set of friends! 5* and a recommendation!

[PJWilliams]

on 7/9/2009 When I moved to a new city, I thought I'd make friends through church. I tried more churches than I can count and eventually made some friends, but unfortunately at many congregations no one will talk to a visitor. But steps 1 and 2 are right on. I especially like step 1. People need to get to know their neighbors more. Thanks!

[Mindee94]

on 7/9/2009 These are great ideas for assisting a person in integrating in a new residential area. Thanks, Mindee