How to Deal With People One Does Not Like

In a perfect world, you would only encounter well-meaning, friendly people in both your personal and professional life. You might even posses the ability to exile annoying people to faraway islands. However, since we live in the real world, dealing with people we don't like is sometimes necessary. While the mere thought of interacting with bothersome people may irritate you, you'll probably have to face those people eventually. Learning how to handle yourself with maturity can help you get through tough encounters, with your pride intact.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. Stay in control of your body language. Realize that nonverbal communication is also assessed when you interact with others. Gestures like rolling your eyes and crossing your arms can be dead giveaways of your underlying emotions. Don't allow aggressive posturing to overshadow attempts at polite conversation.

2. Keep interactions to a minimum. Although you can't always avoid people you don't like, don't make an extra effort to see them. This applies whether the person is a neighbor or a co-worker. For instance, finding an alternate route to your desk that doesn't cross paths with a spiteful colleague can help keep you out of trouble. Altering your schedule slightly can help you "miss" those awkward moments that leave you at a loss for positive words.

3. Refrain from throwing snide comments into your conversations. While it may be tempting to use interactions as a chance to sling insults, it only serves to make future interactions more excruciating. Focusing on your primary task can help you avoid getting sidetracked by anger. For instance, airing grievances about past relationships during a bake sale committee meeting is immature and counterproductive.

4. Take a deep breath before engaging in communication. Preparing yourself can help alleviate nervousness and stop you from making poor decisions. Planning what you'll say ahead of time can also make interactions run more smoothly. Avoid rushing into conversations or making surprise visits. Using a trusted colleague or friend as an intermediary can help reduce the need for some contact.

5. Rise above any hostility shown to you. Dodging attempts to upset you gives you the upper hand and may even discourage future attempts at hostility. Avoid using other people's negativity as a reason to sink into immaturity. This applies in both public and private settings. Subdue any urges to make unflattering comments about encounters to friends or colleagues.

Tips & Warnings

• Understand that just because you dislike someone doesn't mean she shares the same feelings about you.
• Avoid working yourself into a frenzy prior to meetings with people you dislike.

References

• Dealing With Co-Workers We Don't Like
• 7 Ways to Deal With Annoying People and Still Get Things Done
• Dealing With a Sibling You Just Don't Like

Resources

• AskMen.com: How to Stay Cool Under Pressure
• AARP: Handling Your Stress