How to Tell Someone You Do Not Love Them Anymore
Breaking off a relationship with someone is the second-worst part of being in a relationship (The worst part being if your beloved breaks up with you).
"I don't love you anymore" probably is the hardest thing to say to another person. Fear of the person's reaction, having to admit out loud that your feelings have changed, or feelings of failure because you're ending a relationship all contribute to a natural desire to "let the relationship fade" or "make him/her break up with me." But a direct approach is more fair for everyone.
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Don't postpone it. Waiting to see if your feelings will change or putting off the inevitable conversation for no real reason does him/her no favors -- if you still are in a relationship and you aren't in love anymore, you are living a lie. Reveal your change in feelings as soon as possible.
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Choose the right medium. Sure, it'd be easier to send her a "Dear John" e-mail or text message. You don't actually have to be present, and you can block or delete any replies unread. Even calling him/her on the phone to say you're not in love anymore is easier than actually saying so in person. But show some class -- he/she has a right to hear this face to face, no matter how difficult the confrontation will be for you.
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Allow the reaction. Whether it's tears, anger, silence or throwing pots and pans, your former sweetie has the right to react to your change in heart as he/she chooses. Saying "Don't cry" to someone you've just broken up with is pointless. You've had your say, now allow him/her to respond.
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Take the responsibility. Even if it's not true, say, "It's me. I changed. I'm shallow. I'm not good enough for you." He/she might not believe you, but both of you likely will feel better because you said it.
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