How to Save Your Virginity For Marriage

In a severely sex-influenced society, it can be extremely challenging to hang on to your virginity until marriage. If you are serious about your abstinence, there are some steps you can follow to help you remain strong. But ultimately, it's all up to you.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. Decide your reasons for wanting to remain a virgin until marriage. You can have any reason that you want, and no reason is too stupid! But you do need to understand WHY you are for abstinence because it will make your chances of reaching that goal a reality.

2. Ignore the media. Do not watch movies that you know are filled with sex. Don't listen to music that encourages promiscuous behavior. Don't read magazines that will tempt you to fail. These things will only bring you closer to failure now that you have chosen to remain abstinent.

3. Surround yourself with people that have similar morals and beliefs as you. Of course you can still be friends with people that are different than you! But when you are around friends that feel the same way as you and will encourage you to remain strong, you will find that you are stronger and can resist temptation.

4. Wear something such as a ring or a bracelet that will remind you daily of your pledge to remain a virgin until marriage. It does not have to say anything on it about your pledge for abstinence. It will just be a reminder to you, and YOU will know what it means. You don't have to let the whole world know that you want to remain a virgin. That is your business, and if you want to let the world know, then by all means- DO! That may help you remain strong. However, your decision is a personal one and you should not have to tell the world if you do not want to. Keep it in your heart and your mind at all times though.

5. Do not date anyone that you know or THINK will pressure you into doing something that you are not comfortable with or that will encourage you to have sex. If you have a bad feeling about someone, listen to your intuition.

6. Don't put yourself into a situation where you can fail. Never let it get to that point. Stick to group dates if you have to. If you know that being alone with a person will tempt you, make it so that the two of you are never alone.

7. Know your limits. If you can kiss and not get heated up or tempted, then that is fine. But for many people, kissing can be very passionate and will most definitely lead to other things. Once you learn what your limits are, work around them. Do not kiss or do anything else that will tempt you to fail your goal for remaining a virgin.

Tips & Warnings

• Many people will not have the same beliefs as you. You should never feel ashamed or embarrassed because you want to remain a virgin. Stay strong, because if that is something that you really want, when you reach that goal you will feel like a real winner.

[turtledove]

on 7/28/2009 I wish more people felt this way. The "everyone does it" pressure is incredibly strong! 5*