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Step 1
Mourn the loss. Sure, you were the only one in the relationship, but it was real to you, right? Don't let others say it was no big deal. It really was. Instead of avoiding or burying your feelings, face them. That will help jump start the healing process.
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Step 2
Lean on your friends and family. Even if they don't understand what you are going through, they will want to help. Take them up on offers to go to a movie or out to dinner. Getting outside yourself will allow you to remember there are other reasons to live than just your adored one.
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Step 3
Stop trying to figure out what went wrong. Nothing did. You had feelings for someone, the object of your affection did not return them. Forget analyzing every encounter and every word that passed between the two of your for answers. There are none. All you are doing is prolonging your agony.
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Step 4
Do something new. The best way to put the past behind you is to introduce something new into your life. Make sure it is a lot of fun and will allow you to meet new people. Nothing heals heartbreak like a few laughs and a good time.
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Step 5
Forgive yourself. Too many people think that a bout of unrequited love means there is something wrong with them or they did something wrong. Accept the fact that this sort of thing happens to just about everyone, it is part of life. The longer you hold yourself responsible for this relationship-that-never-was, the harder it will be to get up, dust yourself off, and get back to living.
